Hi
My b/f and i have had a rocky relationship but i believe we both want it to work. We have been together 3 years and its been rocky due to our past relationships.
We have had a bad time recently to the point we were close to breaking, but i believed we both wanted to try and work through the issues. Recently, my b/f befriended a woman who he was doing a favour for, and saw her briefly on a daily basis. He quickly started telling her things about himself, personal things, and she did him. I knew this lady through my children, but not well, but at first was not overly concerned until he started letting slip about the things they were talking about. He then tried to get me to befriend this woman by going out with her, which i did one night and she said some things to me that made me feel more uncomfortable than i was already feeling about the relationship springing up between them. She told me one thing, told my b/f another and when we realised that the stories didnt match, he became angry. I told him that i felt she knew quite alot about our relationship - he then got angry with her and confronted her over it (i wasnt present) because he had asked her not to tell me what they had been discussing. Since then she got cross, and basically the friendship has ended.
This is not the first time my b/f has felt the need to talk to another woman about our relationship, and it has caused many problems in the past. I dont think anything physical has happened between them because my b/f is not confident in this way.
We recently had many fights, and although we talked about this friendship, it has made me feel that for him, something must be missing on reading up. I realise our relationship has been rocky recently, and we are now making a desperate attempt to fix things.
My b/f is a big talker, and he understands that this woman was potentially dangerous to our relationship. He says he wont do this again, but i wonder if i should approach him with regard to what he feels is missing in the relationship? We can talk and talk for hours, in great depth about our feelings so im suprised that he felt the need to go elsewhere. It is making me feel that im not enough, and im worried, as for most of our relationship he has felt this need to talk about problems to his ex, this ended 6 months ago, but now hes done it again.
Where am i going wrong - what is it that i dont do for him and do i approach him about this? It seems a bit late in the day as this happened a few weeks ago, and we are making a new start and i dont want to rock the boat. I dont believe he has honestly addressed this, and just says he is a motor mouth.
Thanks
