So in other words, your WH said blah, blah, blah. It's the same thing they all say. I have a list somewhere. I'll look for it. But it is so funny how their EXACT words can be predicted, every time.


Could I please have this list or is there a thread somewhere?

Take care
Van

The responses to exposure are always the same:

* You have really done it now, I was going to work on the marriage, but now I'm not! [yes, you were working hard by having an affair **snort**]

* Our marriage is over now! You had a chance, but not now!

* You have really hurt the OWH and his children! [oh gee, and all this time we thought the affair was hurting them]

* The OWH says he doesn't ever want to hear from you again! [but he wants to hear from the WS! hehehee]

* If you were trying to save our marriage, this is not the way to go about it... [but having an affair is!]

My WH said the exact lines that Melody listed. There really must be a wayward handbook for dummies out there.

He also said "You have no right to meddle in my affairs"

and " Now OW is scared to be with me, so will you please tell her you won't do anything else to her so I can still see her"

and of course, called me all sorts of choice names to let me know that this "stupid and psycho" behavior (by telling OWHs) was the reason he left me anyway.

He also wanted a play by play account of everything that was said by OW. He was very concerned with how OW took the exposure, not too concerned with how is wife was dealing with the facts.

Thanks for the replies,
I am trying to understand what was said by WW. Is all of this bla bla bla?

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=4&vc=1

yes it is amazing to think that the WS will do anything to protect the OP that they just know for a short time.

Van

Thanks Mel. Okay, now I'm REALLY going to make a formal list and save it.

Anyone else have some babble?

believer, you have one of the best lists! Can you add yours?

Well, they ALWAYS say "this is the last straw". Also "I'll never trust you again" is a big one.

Let's make a list -

1. This is the last straw.
2. I'll never trust you again.
3. How could you hurt the OP's family like that?
4. * You have really done it now, I was going to work on the marriage, but now I'm not! [yes, you were working hard by having an affair **snort**]
5. * Our marriage is over now! You had a chance, but not now!
6. * The OWH says he doesn't ever want to hear from you again! [but he wants to hear from the WS! hehehee]
7. * If you were trying to save our marriage, this is not the way to go about it... [but having an affair is!]
8. " Now OW is scared to be with me, so will you please tell her you won't do anything else to her so I can still see her"
9. "You have no right to meddle in my affairs"
10. called me all sorts of choice names to let me know that this "stupid and psycho" behavior (by telling OWHs) was the reason he left me anyway
11. He also wanted a play by play account of everything that was said by OW. He was very concerned with how OW took the exposure, not too concerned with how is wife was dealing with the facts.
12.This will only make WW hate BS more and WW will never speak to me again

I asked him if he was having sex with the OW again. He got very angry, for some reason. "Since you accused me, I just will! I will have sex with her every time I see her now, and it's all because of you!"

Then, my all-time favorite, "Now I hate everyone in the world because of you."

He would be so horrified now.

Oh yeah Neak, the first one is a classic.

And this -
WW has seen what BS is capable of with this actions (I think WW is talking about exposure and forcing to stay in house)