i am going to expose to OWH today, i think, very nervous, anyway My WH still denies he is involved in A with this woman, but i have proof. He doesn't know what i have, but knows i know. he is becoming paranoid, but still continues the A.

Anyway...my question, what should i expect his reaction to be like when i have exposed to OWH. My H's reaction. I am a little worried, he has never hurt me or thought about it, but he is so different it scares me. I know he will be mad, especially once he hears from her. Any advice?

I will post a copy of my post to you when you asked this last week:

Hi jaysmom, the OWH will either already know or he will not know and will likely be very hurt. Occasionally you find one that doesn't care. Just be as sensitive as possible and give him all of your information. Suggest to him that you work together to save your marriages and tell him about Marriage Builders. If you work together, you are more likely to bust up this affair.

Be prepared for the fallout from your H. He will be furious that you interefered with his affair and will say all the nonsense that believer quoted. He is saying this for 2 reasons: a) to punish you and b) to shut you up so you will stop interfering in his affair.

So, listen to him rant and rave, but don't apologize for what you did. Tell him you will do what it takes to save your marriage and that OWH has a right to know about his own life.

And most importantly, if the affair is still ongoing, I would expose it to all key people on the same day after you expose to the OWH. Good exposure targets are his parents, her parents, your parents, employer if a workplace affair, and close friends. Best to get it all done in one fell swoop to get the maximum benefit and deal with one lovebuster than with multiple. It is much harder for the affair to recover from one HUGE blow than several minor blows. So get your money's worth and do it right.

When you call up family members, you tell them about the affair and ask for their support in helping you save your marriage. Then make sure your H knows about the exposure.