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I didn't know what catagory to place this under so I am posting it here. I just found out (like in the last 24hrs) that my husband is already married to a woman in another country (he's in the service) They have been married for at least 6yrs we've been married 2 1/2. Does anyone know what my rights are as far as a divorce??? Are we even legally married??? I feel my marriage has been one big fraud. I am still dumb founded that my husband isn't really my husband. I asked him about this other woman and at first he denied it but after a bit of pushing he admitted it. He says he was young and needed money (I guess this woman paid him) she needed to get to the states. That is how I found out because she emailed him asking for help to move her and her kids over here. I still cant believe this is all happening What can I do what are my rights anyone know? PLEASE HELP!If we are legally married I plan on divorcing him and taking the no good lying SOB to the cleaners!!! [color:"blue"] [/color]

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Soldier, you need to call a good attorney *right now*. First gather as much information as you can and then get legal help immediately.

If he was legally married to someone else first, then no, your marriage is not legal. That's bigamy and is against the law, at least in the U.S. So is marrying someone just to get immigration status.

You said he was married "in another country." What country were you married in and what country did the first marriage take place in?
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I'm sorry for your shocking discovery. You must feel deeply upset.

However, I think you need to see a lawyer. I'm not voting in your poll, because it's not a question that anyone but a lawyer can answer. All we can do here is offer you emotional support with the crisis in your life.

You need to find out the legal ramifications of this - where the marriage was conducted, whether it was legal in that place, whether it was ever dissolved. Perhaps the army (is it the army?) can help you - it can't be a rare event and they must know how to investigate.

How old are you? How old is your H? Are there any children?

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Go to JAG--FIRST THING TOMORROW!!!!!!

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call an attorney pronto

YOU need legal counsel

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Also, report him to the inspector general. The military does not look to kindly upon this.

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Here is a little more back ground as I stated earlier this is all fresh so I am learning more about the situation on a daily basis. I guess this "marriage" happened in Germany. To a Nanny from Eucadour we were married here in the states. I am in the process of trying to get a copy of the marriage license. As far as JAG believe me I have contacted them as well as the CID I have a appt with JAG tomorrow and CID told me to get as much info as I can about who what when where etc. So that is what I am doing that is why I said Im getting new info about this whole thing on a day to day basis. By Friday I hope to have a copy of the marriage certificate as well as her full name. I am not getting any help from my husband (of course) so I have to do my own little PI work to figure everything out. He of course doesnt know what Im doing. We havent spoke or even slept in the same room since I found this all out. I dont even feel right being in the same house with him I feel like I live with a stranger (basically I am) I cant go home because I have no money and no where else to really go back home. I have one son from a previous relationship but his father is about as worthless as my current "husband" I am 24 and so is my "husband" my son is 7. I was just looking for some emotional/legal support Thanks for listening <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> [color:"blue"] [/color]


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