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Even though my attorney and the business appraiser that she recommended - suggest that I retain my portion of the business and not file for a divorce from extremely WH - I feel that I have to have complete closure from this man.

When I spoke to the business appraiser he gave me a low dollar amount even though our business is doing well - and the price is less than what we paid. He said the value is different from a sale verses a divorce settlement price...

Does anyone know WHY it would be different - when he is basically buying my portion of the business from me - even though it is martial property.

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Not off hand - that is curious. Why can't you get the "sales" value, because in essence that is what is happening - you are selling your portion of the business, what does it matter to whom you sell it?

Can you force the outright sale of the whole business?


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That's the way I look at it too. I am selling my portion and will have no affiliation with the business any longer. When I questioned the appraiser he just blew me off that when you are selling a business you pump it up to get the best price and when you are selling because of divorce it's a whole other set of numbers...

Selling the business his share and mine would be the best financial outcome for me. He would NEVER do it..I wish I could sell my portion to a complete stranger but that isn't possible either since the parent company can mandate ownership and WH owns a higher percentage than I do - so he can control financial issues too..

I don't get it..I just don't get it??????

To me a business should have 1 value that's it..But why should this fair??? It's not bad enough he's screwed me emotionally he may as well screw me $$$$$

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OK, I didn't get our business fully evaluated, but I did look at a comparable value.
First, did your X own the business prior to M, or did you buy it together? IF so, he may be assuming that X owns a higher %.
Now, did the appraiser look at the "value" from a number of points.
1. Return on Sales. For every business type there is a standard value based on sales/revenue.
2. Earnings stream.
2. Asset value, if you liquidated, what would be the value of the corporate assets.
3. Extra investment in the business, had you bought additional inventory or purchased hard assets which decrased the income of the company, but would benefit the long term gain. If this occurred, the value should be adjusted upward.

Ok, these are just ideas, but the evaluator should have given you a number of scenarios. Now, if you sold the business outright in an open market, you would likely use a "broker" (like a realtor) who charges a fee for his services. Is the difference in the "sale" price and the "divorce" price possibly the difference here?

I didn't want my X's business, so I came up with a realistic value of the growth in the business and in the hard assets during the M, and since I did the books, I had a good idea of these. I decided that it was far better for me to keep my retirement intact than to go after his business. I think the dollar amounts of the 50/50 split were about equal.
So, my feeling is if you feel you are getting "shafted" in this calculation, make it up elsewhere to end the issue.

If the evaluator isn't playing fair, then you can pay to get another estimate.


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H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
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