Hello all,
I am new to this site. I got a call at work 3 1/2 years ago saying my wife was having a male visitor in our home while I went out of town to pick up my daughter from a previous marriage. I confronted her and she denied it. Later that night she said she had had a visitor but nothing happend and she stuck with that story until 4 months ago. In June of this year she was hit head-on by a drunk driver and was almost killed. That made her decide to come clean about the affair she had. She said they had been intimate once and that the contact ended when I initally confronted her. Now she acts like the weight is off her shoulders but it has now been placed on me. I am crushed over this but am trying to overcome. I am not sure she has told me the whole truth but am relatively sure she has not has any other A's since. I am having a hard time forgiving her. I am as hurt about her lying for 3 years (including making out like I am being irrational for being suspicous) as I am about the affair. We are going to counseling through our church but she is doing little if any of what she has been told to do. I am doing everything I have been told to do. Am I fighting a loosing battle? I love her but I tend to dwell in the past and this is the most painful experience I have ever had. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.

Post deleted by weneedhelp

crushed1 don't go away. Guaranteed you will get mucho help at marriagebuilders from caring concerned individuals.

I'm a bit of a newbie, and there are hundreds of participants here who are more experienced than I am.

I see you've moved to a new forum, but it's still not the active one. Can I suggest again that you restart at GeneralQuestion II? It's under the 'Infidelity' heading. I know it's a pain, but believe me it will be worth it.

I just want you to get the exposure you need in order to tap into the enormous pool of help at marriagebuilders.

Thanks wnh!