I'm pretty sure no. I researched pretty much everything. No emails. No mysterious phone calls when I'm there. I don't have access to her cell phone. She recently asked me why I thought people had affairs and she expressed disgust. I'm an analyst at work and I see the worst in everything...I don't see it. But...I wouldn't be the first to be surprised.
She played dirty. She told me the only way I could show her I respected her was to move out.
Can you move back? (You may want to ask your lawyer for that).
Based on the original statement. It would be disrespectful. I tried to move back once in July and she threatened divorce and reiterated the only way I could show her respect was to move out. She said she couldn't think of any other way to save our marriage, and she wanted to try it her way.
Who is paying for the expenses?
I am. She started working Saturdays and Monday evenings to bring in a little extra.
Why are you enabling her to be single?
It's a great question. I ask myself that all of the time. a) I'm trying to learn to be graceful. b) I am trying to learn that I can't control her. c) She has felt that I have been controlling her, so I want to show her I won't. d) A demon of hers is that people have not been supportive and have left her on her own to sink or swim (and she's always kept her head above water). So, I'm trying to show her that I will support her unconditionally and not abandon her like her parents and others have. e) I feel like if I get 'tough' she will feel it is controlling and disrespectful and pull farther away and revert back to her familiar survival mode.
Can you make an appointment with the Harleys?
I can. I guess I never considered it since it would be just me. What would one person all by themselves get out of it?