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Hi, I'm wondering how those of you who are separated against your will are handling the issue of Christmas cards, gifts, etc. over the holidays? I have not even sent out cards yet, but I've bought gifts for my nieces and nephews (H's brother's children). Now I don't know if this is appropriate. I don't want to confuse them, but at the same time, I want them to know that I'm thinking about them, and that I do care about them - a lot.
Another question - there is one person in my H's family (his SIL) whom I would really like to contact via letter and just let her know what an inspiration she has been to me; she is a person of strong faith, an excellent mother, and a wonderful role model. Of all the people in his family, she was always the one I felt most comfortable being around. Should I write and tell her this?
Any advice appreciated ...
"Ambition is like love, impatient both of delays and rivals."
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Joined: May 2000
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I think it would be fine to send the letter. I think it is fine to send the gifts. For financial reasons, I could not continue to exchange gifts with my in-laws but I found some pictures of my x when he was a child and I may give them to my former in-laws. And my x has been gone for 10 years.
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My exWS and I have been divorced for 3 years. I continue to send my stp.children (his son and daughter)a Christmas card with a little money every year. I let them know that I still love and care about them. I just moved and made sure they had my new address and phone number if they ever needed to call me. It's a little easier sending them something because they live with their biological mother, so the ex doesn't have to be involved.
I don't know about your SIL, but when I was going through the whole mess of finding out that my ex was having an affair and the OW was pregnant...my SIL sent me a beautiful card and note. She said that she and my exWS's sisters had been talking about what had happened. She said they were so sorry for what he put me through. That I deserved better. I have kept that card/note. It means the world to me. I not only lost a husband..I lost some wonderful extended family members.
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