Well lastnight it happend I got the "lets work on the marrige". Alot of things happend to her yesterday, the car repoed, my son let her have it with both barrels, he is 19 and told her really for the first time what he thinks of what she has done. And day before yesterday my wife had the first words with the one she had the affair with (they work at the same place) She had to tell him that it was the worse mistake of her life, and he told her never ever talk to me again Smiley

So I hear the words I have wanted to hear for 6 months, and what was my reaction? Scared to death. I spent the night there lastnight, nothing much happend. Need to do alot of thinking and soul searching.

If I do go back this will not be the same marriage, thank god. I will not try to control her anymore. I will demand respect tho. No more stilling on my [censored] on this pc. We will go places and do things together just me and her. I will cherish her like I should have all along, she has to do the same. She is a damn lucky woman to have me and I know that and I think she sees that to now.

the ride continues.

scott

I hope you include MC in your future plans with WW.

Good news - so happy for you.

WW hitting bottom + (WW + OM LB'ing) = Fog clearing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Congradulations. NOW you can start rebuilding the M.

Great News!!! Good Luck!

Has she agreed to IC [individual counseling] to deal with the issue of her being sexually molested by her father when she was 8 to 10 years old?

She has worked all day, did not really get into that lastnight. I can see the fog going away. I will talk to her about the abuse to. But we will have MC or this wont work.

Not sure if she has hit rock bottom because im always there to catch her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> But I do think she sees what the ****** she has done. The other day I got upset about something and she freaked out saying I got mad about the affair with it had nothing to do with it at all. She told me how much guilt she does have from it, how it kills her everyday. Lets hope the fog keeps lifting.