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#1537964 12/10/05 10:27 PM
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[color:"blue"]Which character do you most resemble? ... and Why? [/color]

Dorothy Gale

The Wizard of Oz

The Tin Man

The Scarecrow

The Cowardly Lion

Emerald City doorman

Mayor of Munchkin City

Glinda, the Good Witch of the North

The Wicked Witch of the West

Child Munchkin

Winged monkey

Ozmite

Miss Gulch

The Wicked Witch of the East

Prof. Marvel

Toto

[color:"blue"]... or .... which character do you think anotherr MBer resembles??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />[/color]

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I see myself as a combination of characters.

I am like Dorothy in the way that "there's no place like home." My home, which is not my house it is my family, is the most important thing to me.

I am like Toto in the way that I am fiercely loyal like dogs are.

And I am like the Cowardly Lion in the way that I wish I had more courage.


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I think I most resemble Prof. Marvel ... trying to "see" the future in my crystal ball while selling snake oil and roasting weiners for dinner

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Let's see -- you're -- you're traveling in disguise. No, that's not right. I -- you're -- you're going on a visit. No, I'm wrong. That's...You're -- running away.


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Professor Marvel never guesses -- he knows! Now, why are you running away?

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Are not all Wayward spouse's like Dorothy? Or is that the whole point of this discussion and I am cutting to the chase (or am I completely off point). I'll hold back to see where this goes but I've already read how the Wiz of Oz can be construed as an allegory of an affair. Kinda like the Narnia Movie (saw it last night...it's great).

I can share what I have about it if you have no idea what I am talking about (again...if that's where your going with this I will delete and let your truly awesome discussions continue). Please advise Pepp.

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FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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[/quote]

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> [/quote]

^^^ see ... doesn't Mel's frown look like Miss Gulch?

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Mr. W ... I have no point ... I am watching the movie right now .... and I just thought this might be a fun distraction for the weekend ...

please fill me in with what you are thinking!

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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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I'm probably most likely the Good Witch Glinda...

Doesn't she have a MAGIC WAND?

I don't much care for her OUTFIT though...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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This is an excert from a document written by R. Reynold that I purchased last spring regarding affairs from another website. It is copyrighted so I apologize if I offend the author.

****Edited***

I'm very sorry, but the use of copyrighted materials is prohibited.

TOS:"You agree not to post any copyrighted material unless the copyright is owned by you or by this BB"

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wow wonderings!!!!

that is so insightful and accurate

i wish my darn H would start clicking his heels or climb into the hot air balloon

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Mr W,

That is a very interesting & seems almost accurate analogy.

Thank you for taking the time to print it here.

As a former hurt spouse I immediately thought of myself as Dorothy caught in a Dream that I believed I wanted not knowing the turmoil to be endured would be so crucifying, all I really wanted to wake up & feel safe.

The above analogy has made me think more deeper, not insular. I can not own the innocent bystander status anymore, or the fantasy of the perfection.

I was swept up into a Tornado because I was there when it hit. I felt the warning signs. I told my spouse, I warned him it was coming. I shouted, waved red flags, tried to drag him kicking & rebelling back into the safety of our home.

He liked & wanted the thrill of the screeching flying monkeys (picture flea infested ride that's exciting in the mo.).

He let us go thinking the storm would not affect us, his wife whom he says he loves more than ever, & his children he says he would give his life for. That I, supposed wise & sensible mom would batten down the hatches & protect our children & myself. And remain the same, intact, content & happy. I did not. I stood out in the storm, calling in the wind, reaching for him, offering him rest, I saw he was flailing about.

I was being broken on the ground, being hit with shrapnel as he flew higher, he threw it down heavy handed, directly hitting me, not thinking he or it would hurt me in the process.

He was flying without his heart yet he felt so exilharated, on an andrenalin high. His brains had been battered so badly he did not even know himself. Yet he persued his new destination with vigour as he was on a path he felt he deserved to fulfill for himself without consequences or care for himself (or those involved in his life & love of him).

Fantasy abrubtly turned to nightmare on Elm St part 4 or 5.

My eyes where open throughout this nightmare so I willingly stood strong trying to rescue a man who did NOT want to be rescued.

I threw him lifelines, that woke his consciousness, he was horrified at what he saw when he looked at the devastation of his family the people who always love him for who he is, me his wife, his innocent children, his mother, his siblings, his nephews & nieces, his good true friends, the people who admire him & trust him, the people who want him in our lives sick or healthy.

It was too hard for him to face what he was doing at first, so he closed his own eyes & wished himself back to 'normal' to what he perceived as comfortable & happy. It took my husband a very long & painful time to realise being comfortable & happy does not include tinges of guilt or worry or stress that you are doing something that in your inside you question as not quiet right or hurting of someone.

I effortlessly make great soul soothing hot chocolate for the people I truly value & love.

Where would you prefer to wake up?

My husband knows.


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I'm like the lion - you should see my hair - Grrrrr. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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I am Glenda...good witch..always fighting the bad witch (the OP)...

I am also blonde...like her outfit actually...and carry a jeweled wand...which I use to go about thonking the wicked witches on their heads. Plus it's cool to have magic powers!


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I am Glenda...good witch..always fighting the bad witch (the OP)...

I am also blonde...like her outfit actually...and carry a jeweled wand...which I use to go about thonking the wicked witches on their heads. Plus it's cool to have magic powers!

.... not to mention that you arrive at the party traveling inside a large soap bubble! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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I'd like to think I am like Dorothy - got sucked up into something I did not ask for, but did the best I could with the resources I could find - and maybe like Glinda, who reminded Dorothy that *she* (Dorothy) was the one with the power all along.

The A/OP = the tornado, obviously.

And maybe MB is like Dorothy's friends the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion . . . a motley collection of non-experts who were indispensable in helping her to reach her goal and get back home.

Mulan

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Did you know that if you turn off the sound at the beginning of the movie and play Pink Floyd's "Dark Side of the Moon" album instead...it goes together perfectly?

I haven't tried this yet, as it seemed like something you would have to be on drugs to appreciate...and quite frankly, who has the time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I probably would have been a combo of the cowardly lion and the brainless tinman, but always willing to help nontheless. Just never able to help myself...cause I didn't have the guts nor the brains to know that it would be inevitable anyway, and all I was doing was taking a detour and prolonging it. Like I said no guts and no brains. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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"the brainless tinman"

nooooooooo

the tinman needed a HEART

the scarecrow was brainless

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Right now I feel most like the Wizard.

I hide my true self behind the curtain while I show another self to others.

My scared, bruised, and wanting so much to trust self hides while I show my confident, self-reliant, and patient self to everyone else.


BS: 37 (me)
WH: 35
D-Day: 6/10/05
Plan A'd from a distance - WH moved out
Plan B started: 10/04/05
Plan B fell apart: 10/14/05
Back on the Plan B pony 10/23/05
Baby stepping in recovery since 11/06/05
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