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Hi all,
SIL phoned. I must get on with my life. SIL spoke to WW and WW does not have any regret or remorse for the A. SIL can not see that BS and WW could ever be back together and be happy. WW is determand to move on.
SIL said the advice and the books is just some general good endings but everybody is different.
It is very frastrating to motivate oneself with out the ¨good intentions¨of others!
van
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Hi!
Are you still living in Finland, and want t find out who is the OM???
Chelsea rules
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Marcus,
I have not found out anything more about OM. Yes I am still in Finland.
Take care!
Van
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van, most family members have never heard of MB and don't know anything about saving marriages. I doubt your SIL knows anything about it. Dr.Harley DOES. So hang in there and don't listen to the pessimism.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. Am I right in my suspicions that your SIL is trying to persuade you that it is over so you will help the WW sell the house right from under you?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hi Mel,
SIL did not say anything about the house YET. SIL wants to meet WW but WW does not want to meet SIL yet. I am sure after their meeting SIL will try to convince me to sell the place.
I did tell SIL that I will try to save my marriage and I respectfully ask them to respect my decision I know what I am doing.
It is funny that I spoke to SIL today b/c I am having an emotional day. (I just see it as the devil being up to his tricks).
I was looking for some happy endings of people in my position for that little bit of motivation.
Van
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Hi Van,
sorry to hear about your bad day. People around me have been telling me to move on with my life for a long time eg my BIL, but since they don't know my situation with my W (with us trying to work things out in the past and all...) I've generally ignored them and slowly reduce my contact with every one of those people. and when I see these people, I always avoid discussing my situation...
Me 33; W 32; kids 0; no known A
date:1996; M:1998
sep 8/04;D filed 9/04 by W;not finalized
MC 1/05-4/05
Sept 2005 n/c by W she moved 5 hrs away and wants me to "move on". D still pending
Talk w/ Jen C 11/27-send Plan A emails
my summary
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Mr Wonderings
Can I read your thread somewhere?
I am happy you are in recovery. ( I would be very happy if I could say that one day)
Van. I just discovered this post on eemd's thread. My story is not really here in the manner that would be of help to you. I did not discover MB until 3 weeks after D-Day and then I refrained from posting until my wife actually began posting. OM had just broken things off with her and she was debating her justifications/rationalizations with the board. She got a few 2x4's for some "closure" emails she sent to OM but all in all she posted here as we recovered. We both posted under the name The_Wonderings (which name I still post under when I am on our home computer). If you want, do a search on The_Wonderings (or just find a post from this past weekend in Dazed's thread from my home computer) and you can see her posts starting in June of 2005. With Prayers, Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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