It's been a while since I've been on here. Just thought I would say hello and give an update to my story.

My divorce will be final in 22 days! I'm happy and sad about it. I am working full time and I love my job. I have a wonderful boss. I've also met someone who I really like. Nothing serious because I'm not divorced yet. We're just friends for now.
My son seems to be doing ok and handling things pretty good right now.
My house is up for sale and I'm looking for a place to live. It will be strange to leave my home and all the memories but it will be a new start for me and my son.

The only negative thing right now is that I went to the doc for my annual check up and my tests came back abnormal and now I have to have a coloscopy done. I'm a little worried because I tried to get pregnant for years and I'm worried that my ex might have given me an STD that has cause infertility. If anyone has any insight on this I would appreciate it.

I hope all of you are doing well.....
Hi Bob...how are you?????

Hi Tree - Everyone has been asking about you! So glad you checked in. Check out the thread here on STD's. Hopefully you don't have anything.

Hi believer!!!!
I will check out that thread. I hope I will be ok too. I don't know what I will do if I do....
I guess like everything else....one step at a time huh?
How have you been????

bump ^ for Tree,

Glad you are doing okay tree, hope you get that house sold soon. So many changes in your life.

God Bless, and I hope you don't have any STD's. You are worthy, wonderful, and deserve the best. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I gather from your non information on stbx that he is still controlled by the mothership and is still looneytoons. LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Merry Christmas!! Hope your son is doing well, moving on and adjusting, as you are.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Hello Tree, Glad to hear you are doing mostly well. Hope the medical issue turns out to be just a simple problem.

I don't come on here much anymore, trying to just move forward myself, but this time of year is hard, so I came back for support and advice. You know the drill.

Just wanted to let you know I am glad things are working out for the better for you.

Take care, HNH

Hi tree - glad to hear things are moving ahead. Realestate has been slow all holidays are. After christmas things pick up. Enjoy your Holidays. Sorry to hear about your health issues. I hope everything comes out negative.

Hi Tree, I'm fairly new here so I don't know your story. But I'm fairly knowledged in Medicine. I doubt that your need for a colonoscopy has anything to do with an STD. Unless you meant a colposcopy. which definitely has to do with the Cervix and probably HPV (warts) but should not interfere with getting pregnant.

Hello darl' !

Faithful Follower and KY gave me an offline heads-up that you had checked in.

You seem very strong , Tree, and that makes my heart glad. And to think you once believed you would never find anyone else to love you ! And now you are holding them off with a pole to stop getting serious too soon ! LOL !

I am also glad you do not seem to be too emotional about moving house. It was only ever the box you put your life in and you may have a BETTER life to place in your NEXT box/home.

How is C doing ? I know he's a cool and smart kid, but I know that having a dilweed as a dad can cause problems in boys' lives. I pray he's doing well and you and him are still friends !

Thank you for asking about me. Squid and I are doing well thanks !. Squid's mom passed away last month at last, and there is a sad sense of closure in our lives. Her illness was linked VERY CLOSELY with Squid's affair.

Squid loves me very much and I love her. We have a set of relationship tools better than we have ever had, and our marrige is improving. It is already better than in many years.

We have hurts and challenges that must be dealt with but only some are a result of Squid's affair. Her affair is becoming just another sad event from our past rather than a bleeding wound every day. I can foresee a time when it will be no more or less important a sad even than my folks' deaths or old money troubles.

Our kids are doing really really well. When I have bad days I look to their happiness and security and I am satisfied that I did the right thing and that my occasional pain is a small price to pay for that.

I've not been here for a couple of months. I found these boards were giving me more and more reasons not to be satisfied with my marriage, recovery or Squid's response as a FWS. So I decided to quit the boards and just 'live' for a while. To see how it felt.

We've had a fairly stressful time since then with Nan's death etc, but it was absolutely the right decision for me. For US.

I need to enjoy the results of my battle now. And recover my health as my efforts have smashed me this past couple of years.

We're doing fine Tree. So are you. Who'd a' thought it , huh ? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

{{{{Tree & C }}}} Happy Christmas !

Thank you so much...Miss M, realtor, hurtnheart, stu and bob!!!!!
I am feeling much better about my life and future these days. I don't come on here often anymore because I'm trying to move on with my life. This site has been a saving grace for me over the last 2 years. I will always be thankful for allof you here. You lifted my spirits when I felt my lowest. I will never forget that!!!

Bob, I am so glad that you and Squid are happy. I'm also very sorry about her mom.
Life is tough but I do believe that things happen for a reson and God knows best.
It is hard to think back when I was so down and felt like I was dying. I've come a long way and have learned a lot about myself.

Life is too short to be miserable...no matter what the circumstances are.
Please keep in touch bob. Take care and God Bless to all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!