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Are you going to try to move back?
Keep us updated.
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Can I read your thread somewhere?
I am happy you are in recovery. ( I would be very happy if I could say that one day)
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Are you going to try to move back?
Keep us updated. yes i will be moving back. xw is so nice now. i dont want to cause any problems but i know when she finds out that that i will be taking her to court. what can i do to keep things peaceful. i see some of the fog is going away what sould i do to make it go away. i think her and the om is having problems. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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Are you going to try to move back?
Keep us updated. yes i will be going back but i have to find a place. and its going to take some time.
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questions i need to know should i let the x know that i do not like the om around my kids. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Yes, but I don't think there is anything you can do about it as you are far away and already divorced.
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Yes let her know you will not stand for the OM to be around the children. Do not allow OM around your children.
This will probably make her mad, but your children do not need to be exposed to the A anymore than necessary and it is not necessary for them to be around OM.
If WW wants to see kids she needs to come to where they are and not bring OM.
"Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
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Yes let her know you will not stand for the OM to be around the children. Do not allow OM around your children.
This will probably make her mad, but your children do not need to be exposed to the A anymore than necessary and it is not necessary for them to be around OM.
If WW wants to see kids she needs to come to where they are and not bring OM. the kids live with her. i dont want to make her mad we has just started talking alfter the divorce.
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Talk to an attorney and proceed accordingly wiht his/her recomendations.
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i cannot afford anymmore attorneys. they did more harm then good in the past. i dont want to make things worse.
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Keep us updated. updated xw dosent like that i moved away.hmm what does that mean.
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hi all i hope everyone has a great xmas. i feeling a little down this xmas time. my x wants to know if iam comming to see the kids this xmas but i dont have time to make it have to work and dont have the money. i been think alot about what the xw has done to me i dont want to be around her at that time. some days iam fine and some days i think about the things that has been done.
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sould i take her to court to find out where my kids are and to get this guy away from my kids.
Yes, absolutely you should
i dont have custody and visitation because i was not at the divorce final hearing.
Why not?
i dont have court appointed visits beacause when i moved away the divorce got final with me knowing the courts could not find me.
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Why did you move without informing the court of your new address?
yes i did suspect that om would there around my kids but i didnt know what to do courts seem to dont care.
The courts did what's best for the kids. No way they would have given you visitation/custody if you do not even show up or leave an address.
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sould i take her to court to find out where my kids are and to get this guy away from my kids.
Yes, absolutely you should
i dont have custody and visitation because i was not at the divorce final hearing.
Why not?: because i was told there would not be a hearing going on and plus i moved.
i dont have court appointed visits beacause when i moved away the divorce got final with me knowing the courts could not find me.
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Why did you move without informing the court of your new address?.... because i dont like dealing with the courts they do more harm then good.
yes i did suspect that om would there around my kids but i didnt know what to do courts seem to dont care.
The courts did what's best for the kids. No way they would have given you visitation/custody if you do not even show up or leave an address.
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Why did you move without informing the court of your new address?....
because i dont like dealing with the courts they do more harm then good.
Do you think the courts should have granted custody to someone who;
- they cannot locate?
- does not appear for a divorce/child custody hearing?
- leaves no address or phone number of where they can be contacted?
In these circumstances, I don't see anything the courts did wrong or bad.
You need to;
- get a lawyer.
- move back near the kids.
- find out where they live and establish REGULAR contact.
And now you have absolutely no idea where your ex or your kids even live!!!
If/when this goes back to court, I'm pretty darn sure your ex will try to use this info against you.
You cannot even see them because you have no idea where they live.
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chis i didnt come on here to get battered by u that seem to be what u have been doing. i just filed with courts for custody and the courts tell me they dont have address for my xw but the courts are taking child suport. i move because i had to i had no where to go. and i got offter a better job.
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Sorry if it seems as if I am battering you. I'm not. Can't blame the court because they didn't do anything wrong or negative (based on what you wrote).
It's up to you to do something if you want it to change. No one except you is going to ensure things get done.
Make sure the court has a valid and current address & phone number at all times. If you move, notifiy them by phone and in writing.
Make sure you notify the city/county court where you filed for custody and also where the divorce was finalized of your address.
Do you have a copy of the divorce decree?
They should have jurisdiction over the case/children and should have an address for your ex. If they have turned over jurisdiction to another city/county, they will know where.
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i do have copy of the divorce drcee. i will look into that. thanks
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