Its hard to believe that this month will be 6 months since D-Day. Everyone who told me to hang in there that things to get better, they do! I no longer sit here and think about the A i can actually go on with my life like a normal person. I am starting to see the husband I married. He'll be home in about 35 days. MIL and my parents are keeping the kids for a week so we can spend a week alone at our house. Im so excited. After that they kids will come back and we start MC soon afterwards. In the month of Feb he gets a month of block leave which he has made a getaway for the two of us. time along again. He has been a different person since d-day, the person i married. Surprising me buying me things even tho they are costing 15 bucks to send home to me. I am still keeping my guard of though. I have been talking to one of his friends and he keeps telling me how all he talks about is coming home to his wife and spending time with me. That sure is a change even his friend has told me so!

I am just so looking forward to him coming home and us being the family we are going to be. The only thing I am worrying about is those darn elections over in Iraq this week, they got me biting my fingernails (no watching the news this week!) At least after that he'll be safe in Kuwait awaiting his flight home. I cant believe he is going to be home i NEVER thought this time would come but its here! Thanks to everyone who told me things will get better again your right but im still keeping my eyes open! Thanks Again I'll post close to when he comes home or if something changes Take Care All

I am so happy for you. Now be careful when he comes home. My son needed alot of space because of being around all his men. He partied alot and was always talking to his guys from over there. They keep in touch for quite awhile. It sill slow down but takes its time. My son was so happy to just sleep and boy did he and then stayed out most of the night. Their schedules are all screwed up. BUt it will work out. It just takes time and patience with them. Son was also a little short at times. He was used to giving orders after all. he was jumpy when we drove and saw a dead animal in road. But delt with it fine. The stories will bring the hair up on the back of your neck. I did not cry or shriek in front of him but just said my god son you really did a fine job. Ugh to myself. You will hear sotrieds you never thought you'd hear and just grin and bear it because they come out of it. My son told me Mom I killed alot of people and it didn't even bother me after awhile. He said that made him feel sad but it was his job and he did save alot of other inocent people. Just hold him and be the support he needs but talk soft and be a loving wife. In time the A stuff will come out but in a fewmotnhs hold off for awhile Ok? His mental health is more important right ow.

Realtor,

Thanks for the information! I really appreciate it. I understand i am going to have to put dealing with adjusting to life in the states to be first. I cant imagine what he has seen or has gone through. He has told me he wants to see a psychatrist (sp) for the things he has seen over there. I have told him I am here to listen to help him, when he signed his name on that dotted line my name went along there too. Not really but it sure seems that way!
Would you suggest putting MC off for a while until he is adjusted and ready? If thats what it has to take I will do that. We are both in this for the long haul. The good thing is the friends he hung out with before he left isnt the same they were all single and trouble makers and caused alot of our martial problems and now he hangs out with married men and Im friends with their wives. We have plans to go out with alot of them after they all come home.
As for the things about the A. He already has told me the things I want to. OW is in the back of our minds now (she emailed me a few wks ago to tell me she was getting married good for her) Our life is getting back on track. He also says he cant wait to see his daughter. I cant wait either! LOL Any other suggestions realtor would be great on helping me help him! Thanks Again

It may be a good idea but only if he agrees to it at a future date. The idea of him getting IC is great. I wish my son had. But he needs to see someone with PTSD background. The service does not have a good plan for our boys and girls.
If you have any problems I will try to help you. It is just hard and takes them time to adjust to civilian life. My son wanted to go back - he became very bored with nothing going on 24X7 over here. The peace and quite was hard on him. He did drink alot at first. They say they took the drugs for maleria but most did not due to the liver problesm and they would have to stay on it for the rest of their lives. Plus living with 12 guys for one whole year. It is hard to live alone at first. He did not eat like he used to and did not want to be made to eat when dinner was ready ect. I just left the frig full and let him go at it when he wanted to. We ate out alot and paid alot for his drinks ect. I drove him everywhere.

Realtor,

Thank you! How long has your son been back? Im just trying to get a timeline on when my husband might be adjusting to life in the states. I am SOO nervous about the elections on the 15th its the only thing thats been on my mind. I talked to my husband on Saturday he sounded great, he told me he is getting promoted on Christmas Day. I told him how excited I was he is a great soldier - you tell him to do it he will do it. He volunteers for EVERYTHING!!! That makes me mad but hey gets him looking better at the commander right?!

I'll tell him we can put MC off. A few months but I know he wants to go. It was his idea! I wanted to go but he suggested it first before I got the chance. That really shocked me. I dont think our situation is bad as some I mean its still bad but you know what I mean?! I'll do my best to listen to his problems, to listen to hold him, hold him if he starts to cry about what he has gone through. I cant imagine what he has seen I've heard one story and I dont want to repeat it on here. Thank you again...You've been some REAL help....Thank you again! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

It took my son about 6 months -of course then he was ent for tow tours down in New Orleans. So hs still has to go thro the PTSD testing. He said he would have rather been in Iraqi than N.O. - at least there they could carry loaded guns. He is fine and still adjusting made a few bad judgements - he is single got D before he went over. Which was not good -he was in a bad place but it kept his mind off of things. He was prmotoed 2X's and is a sargent. Has 2 medals of valor. He was in the Easter fighting 72 hrs last year and every holiday after. He was in Baghdad in the green zone. Their unit is the mountian div of NH Nat'l gurad. they have sais they are making a movie about them in NH. He has every medal to be given including a bronze star.

Wow your son is very decorated, I am sure that you are very proud of him. My husband has some awards but shame on me I cant remember the names. He has gotten 3 challenge coins. Its not really alot but he is the only one in his unit to have them. He got these after I exposed his A to his commanders but it was the only way I could let him know i found out. He told me he was glad i found out that the guilt was killing him inside. So obviously I am not the only one seeing the good in him. He should be a SGT soon too. I cant wait actually!
He knows i am behind him 100% whenever he needs me I'll be here to help him get through it. As I know he would do the same for me I just cant wait to be in his arms again, I know i might get the cold shoulder but I do know that my H loves me and always will and I give him the same back. He knows he is lucky to have a wife that would do this for him, the other wives around me are b*tches and cant stand either one of us! So thankfully we have found a new place and wont have to deal with their crap! Makes me sooo happy! I hope your son is doing alright.....Will he have to go back?