Hi All,
I've been looking for a way to see if I'm crazy or not and thought I'd give one of these message boards a shot. Obviously there are always two sides to a story and I can only tell one of them, but I'll try to be fair so I can get an honest answer.
Here goes... My wife and I have been married for two and a half years. We knew each other for about 7 years prior to getting married (she was my hair stylist). Besides talking while getting my hair done, we only dated for about 6 months prior to getting married. She had 3 children 8 mos, 3 yrs, and 6yrs old prior to our getting married. I've always loved her with a love I can't explain, so thinking we were soulmates, I decided that I could handle the children since she seemed like such a wonderful mom. I also figured that at the least even if i couldn't be the greatest dad in the world I could at least fill a hole in their lives since the father of each are non existent in their lives. Time has gone by and many things have transpired since we've been married. We've had more arguements than I can imagine and have made it through all of them, and are now pretty much trying to decide wheather or not to just divorce and move on. I've been looking back and trying to figure out why we can love each other so much and still not seem to agree on anything. I work from home two days a week so that we don't have to pay for a babysitter and on those days she works 12 hours. The other three days I work at the office which is an hour away from home. She works pretty much every saturday. So basically I watch the kids three full days a week and try to get in a days work on two of those days. Plus she takes extra clients sometimes on the nights when I work during the day, so i come home and watch the kids. I try to go out with friends (mostly poker with the guys) at least once a week to keep my sanity, but I never hear the end of it every time I do. I'm 27 yrs old and am starting to realize that I resent her for "taking away my life" and with all that resentment I am misserable every day and feel like I don't have an identity anymore. She basically thinks that I just want to spend as much time as I can with friends and away from her and the kids. I agree that I want to be away from them since I'm always with one/all of the kids or with her and never get to be away.
We've discussed this whole scenario over and over and she can't seem to understand how I could need to get away from them and how I could think that she should be taking on way more responsability when it comes to the kids. I've made huge sacrafices for her and the kids and she doesn't seem to apreciate any of them. Maybe if she let me be me more and didn't smother me with jealousy and the kids, then I'd want to spend more time with her and take her out and be more romantic.
I don't really have any specific questions here. Just wanted a second opinion I guess. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />
