I believe my spouse is just waiting for the holiday season to pass before going to see a lawyer.

I've tried my best to eliminate or at least reduce LB. Have been tending her #1 EN of listening as best I can.

Have mentioned to see a MC (coach or counsellor) with no good feedback.

I am powerless to stop her from doing what she wills. When in the withdrawal state ... emotions rule and logic is out the door.

I am doing my best to stay in love and logic and compassion.

What should I be doing to 'protect' myself? Love trusts and has hope. Withdrawal hates and does what is good for itself.

I continue to PRAY everyday and am part of a prayer group that practices every afternoon.

I've seen a lawyer for a consultation, we've discussed division of assets but in my heart, this is not the route I wish to take and feel that I will be dragged into it.

Please, I need advice ... how to move forward with this or should I wait for spouse to make the first move?