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Hi there,
as I promised, I´ll keep you posted on my dating Mr. Conversation. We had set up a date for coffee in town today but I had to cancel since one of my kids has a really bad throat infection. Instead, I invited him to have coffee at my place since I trust him completely to come here. He happily agreed, and we had another 3 hours of awesome conversation. My kids are pretty distant with people they don´t know but around that guy, they relaxed enough to come into the kitchen with us and play. I know, a lot of people might now scream: How can you let him meet your kids so early? I didn´t exactly let them "meet" him, as in "Meet the parents". He was a friend coming over for coffee, as so many of my friends do. And that´s how we acted towards each other, too. And the way how he´s being around my kids is crucial information for me. I´m not going to start anything resembling relationship before I have that info.
Anyway, I found myself being more attracted to him the longer we talked. Conversation with him just keeps getting better. It´s like we started talking about something at some point, and like a tree, more and more branches come out that and there´s no end in sight. He already suggested a "phone date" for tomorrow night, so no insecurity wether or when I´ll hear from him next. I very much appreciate that. Then we´ll go from there, setting up another date.
And he asked me about my plans for New Year´s.
I was really a bad case of FDSS (First Date Stress Syndrome). But if you get the chance to meet a guy like him, you should be cured. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Nora
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Very cool! So, there's hope, that's what you're saying?! Good for you! Keep us updated!
"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same"- Nelson Mandella
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[color:"blue"]Good for you Nora.
My BF called me every morning and every evening from the time I gave him my number. He and I clicked very well in the conversation department. It was nice too that he almost immediately began making future plans. It was me that used to put the brakes on and say "well of course if we are still seeing each other..."
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Hope? Oh yeah, of course! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
He just sent me a Good Night e-mail (different time zone here!) about how he loved being over at our house, and how I handle things so well with my kids and how great they are.
Of course, that´s exactly the stuff a mom needs to hear!
And I think at the age of 35 now, I do have some kind of bullsh*t detector. It´s not smooth talk, he actually means it. Even a smooth talker can´t get it right every single time he says something.
Should I consider making plans for New Year´s with him? I don´t have the kids!
Nora
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Definately go for the New Year's plans!!
If you could read my mind love,
What a tale my thoughts could tell...
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If I had someone that I had good conversation with and that made me laugh, I would be making New Years Plans with them.
Good luck! Karona
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Yep, I say go for it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
DW--BW....separated/divorced since 2003 Re-married 7/09!
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Phone date went great - another 2 hours of talk. Very comfortable talk. No mixed messages. Fun. I´m just so at ease.
We set up a date for Sunday. Well, not a "date" date but going to a Christmas fair with the kids. Still, something I love to do but wouldn´t necessarily do alone with two kids under 6! I asked him if he had time and wanted to go and "of course he has time and of course he wants to go". And it didn´t hurt at all for ME to ask HIM... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
So, how do I approach the New Year´s subject? When he asked, I said - truthfully - that I´m invited to go over to friends´ house. It´s not a definite plan, though. At the time he asked, I was kind of too nervous to ask back what he was doing. (Sometimes I do still feel like a teenager and, boy, do I hate it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />) So it seems like I have to bring the subject up again. How? And what would you suggest we do, assuming he doesn´t have specific plans and would like to spend NYE with me? Ask him to come with me to my friends´? Do sth with his friends? Or something completely different?
I guess I do like this guy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Nora
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