Hi,

I had been checking my husband's cell phone bills online since the second D-day in October, 2004 but stopped about July, 2005 as I didn't find anything and it was time consuming. I felt like maybe this time there was NC for real.

I started looking again yesterday and I saw 15 "unavailable incoming" calls in October and a few in November. Also, there were five calls made that said data with a no. 777-000-0001. I called the phone co. and they said data means pictures (his phone isn't capable of sending/receiv. pictures) or the web. I got to thinking, he knows I have a program on our computer (keylogger) so has he renewed contact by sending e-mails via his phone? I was so upset I was shaking. I thought we were recovering, then our two oldest sons had a bit of a melt-down and I had many conversations with them about how they were angry at their dad, disappointed with him, how they wanted to talk to him. He put off the conversation for over a month! This made me angrier and resentful as he knew they were in pain. This all happened the end of October/November. In my mind I wondered did he renew contact, found out how much pain he caused his sons and then broke it off again?

Ask him you may suggest, he has never told me the truth about such things. I have found out the truth through my own means. I don't know if a relationship like this is worth saving. Very discouraged. My oldest son told me that my WS didn't take any responsibility for his actions and tried to play the blame game. This is supposedly while we are in "recovery".

I don't know if I am over-reacting or if WS is at it again...any advice?

I wouldn't react at all until you find out what is going on. You really have nothing to say to him now because you have no evidence of anything. Just keep watching your back and eventually he will slip up.