My ex husband and I were married almost 20 years when I found out that he was having affairs. He was meeting people (MEN and women on the internet and then meeting them in person for sex.) He had MANY (Over 13 partners). My kids know the whole story, they are teenagers, I was always faithful, since the divorce he has turned my son against me he is very short with me and it hurts me deeply. My ex's parents are very nice to his brothers ex-wife but with me they are awful. Our daughter lives with me and has very mixed feelings about things. My ex was always screaming and throwing things, I do not know why this bothers me so bad now because I am remarried (which happened rather fast after the divorce). My ex husband was the only guy that I dated and I married him. He says some of the most awful things that you would ever hear. He has since lived with various women and that seems to be okay with his christian parents. How can I get over this and on with my life. My current husband is kind but his kids are very mean to me and so is his ex. His mother seems to want them back together. I am falling apart, I moved 200 miles away from my friends and family and now I have no one, please help me with this problem. Thanks

First off, we don't know your story. I understand your pain but it's hard to help you right now.

Perhaps your son is upset because you remarried quickly and moved. Did your son move with you? Your X-inlaws sound eeriely like inlaws I know. Why is it that these people who claim to have such high, Christian values seem to forget all about them when faced with their son's behavior?

You have entered the land of being the Step Mother. We don't know why, when or what was involved with your current husband's divorce. In the best of situations, his kids would probably put you through a testing period. Mothers, will be mothers. Too bad your X-MIL doesn't act towards you the XW like your new MIL does towards the other XW.

Is your new husband just kind or do you love him?

I'll speak for the people on the this forum that we need more information before we can really understand the situation. Oh yeah, we like paragraphs too.

Tell us more.

I fell in love with my husband but I think some things were decieving, I do not believe in divorce unless there is adultrey and there is not. My son did not come to live with me he lived with his father, he is now 20 and out on his own. He talks to me at times and recently visited me but he is very angry. He will not talk about the past at all. I am just now finding out things thru my daughter about some emotional things that happened between their father and them. My Ex husband was always rough on my son physically and emotionally. That is why I could not understand him living with him and hating me. As far as my in laws now they have it in their heads that they MUST be nice to my husbands ex in order to see the grandkids, I have tried to explain to them that this is not the case that they have rights. My stepson has threatened me and come after me and nothing was done, when I stood up for myself his ex called the police on ME. I apologized and I am still paying for it. My husband is very timid due to how his first marriage was and I did not know this. A lot of things were kept from me like his son's temper and problems with the police and mental problems. His daughter lies constantly about me to her mom and then it gets blown all up and I get blamed so I try to keep to my self but I am so lonely. I have MS and my husband and his family does not understand nor do they want to. I literally feel like I am dying of loneliness. He works 2nd shift and my daughter is always busy with school and friends ( as it should be). I just do not know why this happened to me and why I am being punished for it repeatedly. I devoted my life to my kids and my husband and then I find out that he cheated. I admitt that I did get remarried way to soon we wanted to wait but my ex would not leave me alone and my dr was advising me to make a change and suggested that getting married sooner might be the answer. (we were planning on getting married in June or July and ended up getting married in December.) It has been a hard adjustment on my kids especially my daughter, and if I had to do it over again I would wait until she was out of school. Sometimes I think my Husband ask me to marry him so he would have a "mom" to take care of him, because I do everything except work outside of the home. I fix EVERYTHING, clean everything, and manage everything. He works. I need some help with this matter. I have even apologized to my Ex husband and each member of his family for anything that I might have said or done during our marriage hoping that that would help but it did not. Please Help me!