Hi there!

Okay, after two dates and tons of phone talks and e-mails, Mr. Conversation is getting really interesting. (Last night, we found out we have friends and acquaintances in common, and all of them are not embarrassing but people I like.)
Attractive, actually. So attractive that I really might like to kiss him. Or be kissed by him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
Any ideas on when would be best? Do you have a this-and-that-many-dates rule for yourself? Or suggestions for me?

And he´s so attractive (smart, kind, funny,...) that I´m really thinking about spending New Year´s with him. How do I bring that topic up? He already asked me what I was doing but I was too shy to actually react. And what should we do for New Year´s?

Thanks!

Nora

How exciting N!

As far as a kiss, I think it's a moment kind of thing. You can't plan it, it would take the romance out. [my opinion of course]
It may be time to get out the lip moisturizer though! Seems like the two of you are hitting it off rather well.

New Years?? You said he asked you already about it?
Maybe be honest, tell him you didn't know how to respond when he asked the first time, and go from there.
And what to do? I would be the last person for suggestions on that. I have never went out for NYE.

Refresh my memory please. How did the two of you meet?

I'm excited for you!
Karona

This is very exciting indeed!

I found myself in this exact sitch last year w/ my current ex-BF.....we'd been talking ALOT on the phone, had gone out on 3 or 4 dates, where I think at the last one, he'd gotten a good night kiss, and he tentatively brought up New Year's. He'd planned on going to Vegas, but gave that up the minute he found out I was free! I've never been so flattered in my life....long story short we went with another couple to their private club where there was good food and dancing, had a really nice time, and ended up kissing, and I'm not talking just a peck, at the stroke of midnight! I hadn't planned on it, but it just felt right......so you'll know <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Very excited for you!

Good story DW!

I was thinking New Year's would be perfect, but it being 2 weeks away, didn't know if a kiss might happen before that time.
How incredibly romantic though. I am a sucker for Romance!!

Karona

Thanks for your responses, ladies!

Karona, we met online. I contacted him right before his membership expired and he didn´t plan on renewing since he didn´t really like that whole online dating experience too much. I understand that as it´s hard to go from virtual to real world and not be disappointed. A lot of the virtual connection you had - or thought you had - can go up in smoke when the real person just doesn´t fit.

We were lucky enough to hit it off so well. First, I wasn´t so sure about Physical Attraction but I find myself being more attracted the more common ground we find and the better he fulfills my EN for Conversation.

What I learned during my M is to really trust my gut feeling. If I have a feeling something ain´t right, then something ain´t right. Then I need to find out what it is and address it.

So far, I don´t have any feelings of that sort at all. Quite the opposite kind of feelings. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I guess the fact he asked me about New Year´s at all shows that he actually might want to spend it with me. I´ll bring it up again - I like your suggestion, K - and ask what he suggests we do. Talk about passing the bucket! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

DW: Yes, it is exciting! I haven´t been passionately kissed for so long! I´m not so sure I can or want to wait until New Year´s! It´s indeed a moment thing and I´m not planning on waiting or not waiting for, well, whatever. If it feels right, it´ll happen. I guess.
He´s coming over tonight to watch a movie, and tomorrow we have plans to go to a Christmas fair. See how it goes...

Nora

A good MB person once described the feelings and experiences you are having as "going to a fair, and enjoying the cotton candy" type feelings. It's all so innocent, exciting, and fun.

Enjoy these first moments and all the rushes that you are feeling.

I like the passing the buck idea! That's where I was headed with my comment. You say your little piece, and let him take it from there!

So happy for you!!
Karona

Thanks, Karona! Cotton Candy? Does sound like fun! And yes, it feels just like it should feel right now. Just got a little text from him saying he´s looking forward to tonight.
I am a little giddy but all the while feel so safe with him and comfortable. No shoe to drop in sight at all... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The only thing I´m planning is to let him take the lead, New Year´s wise and kiss wise. After all, he´s the guy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Of course, I can show I´m interested. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"Of course, I can show I´m interested."

Ahh, of course you can!!!

Enjoy the evening! I feel the excitement for you!!

Karona

2 weeks is plenty of time to go from talking to kissing. In fact it's enough to to plan a make out session on the couch at midnight.

Update:

Even though I had your blessings, there was no kiss tonight.
We had a great time, though, and it´s okay we didn´t kiss. It just would have been awkward, kinda sorta. We watched a movie, romantic-comedy chick flick type, and the whole situation - the two of us alone in my living room, the kids asleep - well, it would have been just a tad too much expected, just a bit too romantic, you know? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I´m not the romantic star gazing kind so I guess I´d prefer a first kiss in a less stereotypical setting. I could rather imagine just slipping my hand into his tomorrow at the Christmas fair and then go from there...

Do I sound weird?
Maybe I´m just really scared sh*tless that once the kissing line is crossed, everything goes too fast because it´s been so great so far...

Nora

Sounds like things are still progressing rather well!
I think it all sounds great!

Glad you enjoyed your evening! Thanks for sharing.

Karona