my wife is having a affair said that she don't love me. want to roomates. still love her, thinks what she doing is ok.

Sorry you are here.... but it's a good place to be when in need. Go to the home page of this site and read EVERYTHING you can about infidelity. Much of this is common sense, but a lot of it isn't, and if you learn about the dynamics of an affair, and how a Wayward Spouse behaves (they are surprisingly similar) you can work your way through all this.

Purchase and read Surviving an Affair, by Dr. Willard Harley, founder of this site. You will learn how to cope with this, how to play a part in getting the affair to end, and how to recover. The people on this forum are among the most wonderful and kind people in the world, and will help you along the way.

Note... the site is typically slower on weekends, than during the week, so don't give up hope if the response is light today.

You will have to be the one who does the WORK required to survive this affair, as your wife is in what we call a FOG, and is not someone you can reach with your words right now. Only your actions will make a difference. Learn more about what action to take, and people here will help you along the way.

Best wishes,
SD

Danny.... what's going on in your life?

Read it three times and still do not understand it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

My guess at translation....."[My wife is having an affair. She says she doesn't love me. She wants to be roommates. I still love her. She thinks what she's doing is ok]"

He hasn't been back since the original post, so I don't know what's going on in his life.