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#1542302 12/18/05 06:48 PM
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My wife, who I love very much has just about had it with me. She 's talking seperation, it's killing me. I just found out that after 35 years it is extremely likely I have ADD. While I finally understand what I've been putting her through, it is an explanation not a reason. I am unhappy with who I am and desperately need the skills that she naturally has. Finding out I have ADD is like a major "ah ha" moment in my head. I want to so badly be the man she could love again, but she says she needs space. I need her support, and feel terrible that I'm asking for something that for so long I have been unable to give. We're going to see a counselor tomorrow, but I'm completely scared. I can't even come close to the thoughts and apologees that are necessary as I have told her repeatedly over the ten years I'd do better, then reverted back to my old self a week or two later. I'm going to do whatever it takes to treat my ADD and work on her trust. But I'm really lost. Thanks

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Hans, this board doesn't get a lot of action. I recommend you post again on the Emotional Needs board. You will get much more help and support there, probably. And you and your ADD are not unique. I am an ADD woman with an ADD daughter and an ADHD son. Join the crowd!

anon2 #1542304 12/22/05 03:49 PM
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If you love your wife that much, going to see a counselor is better than loosing your wife forever....

Good luck....


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