Hi Pep -

Yep, most of these things are credit card offers. Very early on, the fleeting thought occured to me to just sign her up! - recognizing the illegality that must take place in doing so. Then I thought, hmmmmm, would it be illegal to submit the applications, noting her new name, noting her real address, "forgetting" to sign the form, and mailing them in? Just trying to be helpful! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Bingle Jells!
WAT

Hey Dave, Merry Christmas......

I get mail for him, and I just throw it away......hope he doesn't need any of it...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Now, that is what I do. Just throw it away. Although, once, since he got married, I sent in one of those we can find you a date things for him - using his then address and phone number. I am sorry. I just couldn't resist. It's been years since I did that, though. And I've never breathed a word of that to anyone.

Sing, how are you. Haven't seen you around in ages. Coming to TN any time soon?

I've gotten mail for my first ex-husband...after divorcing my second husband. This was 10 years and 4 moves/new addresses later!

I've had business calls from people wanting to talk with my exWS...probably collection agencies! When I state that we're divorced, they ask if I know how he can be reached. I just tell them if they can find him they're having better luck than me!

What really bothered me was when my exWS had to sign off on our auto insurance policy...even though I was the holder of it and always had been. Because he was a registered driver...they said he had to sign off in spite of being divorced.

Why not just collect the mail in a civil manner, then arrange to meet so you can deliver it in a decent, adult manner? Why play games? Why not just be real, be the good person you know yourself to be, and stop trying to hurt your ex?

ablocke - to whom were you responding?

If it was me, the originator of this post, rest assured that all attempts at civility over the past, oh, 5 1/2 years have been met with behavior usually associated with those not only incapable of civility, but living in deluded states.

"decent, adult manner" is not recognizable by her, because it takes one to know one. Just trust me on this, OK? If you knew the details, you'd have a different take, I promise.

Games? Hurt my XW? I could not begin to compete with her on these levels. Thankfully, I'm on an entirely different planet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

WAT

When the STBX moved out and in with the OW at her house he changed HIS address to be forwarded there...the next thing I knew all MY junk mail was going to HER house with MY name on it...LOL

Some things you just can't help but smile <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Though I'm still not divorced after 5 years apart, I rarely visit this forum anymore... too much of a reminder of how difficult my divorce has been and still is... but it's so great to see all you other old timers here!

Mail with STBX's name on it... Well, I still get some mail for our business with his name so I need to see that. Then there was the store that sent mail with MOW's first name and WH's last name - I called them twice to ask them to please stop! They were very apologetic and finally did.

The official paperwork when WH lost his professional license came to my address. I opened it, copied it, then both forwarded it to his lawyer, since I don't know WH's home address, and sent a copy back to agency with his lawyer's address for further correspondence. The true junk mail I just throw away.

The traffic ticket he got this month - at my address when he's lived elsewhere for 5 years but has never put in a forwarding address... threw it away, too. I got tired of forwarding his mail a couple of years ago. He's a big boy. If he wanted to get stuff like parking tickets, etc., he would've changed his address long ago! As far as I know, he doesn't have a driver's license, so what difference does it make if he gets a parking ticket?!

"The traffic ticket he got this month - at my address when he's lived elsewhere for 5 years but has never put in a forwarding address... threw it away, too. I got tired of forwarding his mail a couple of years ago. He's a big boy. If he wanted to get stuff like parking tickets, etc., he would've changed his address long ago! As far as I know, he doesn't have a driver's license, so what difference does it make if he gets a parking ticket?!"



Good point!!! My exWS hadn't bothered to change his address on his license after he moved out and we divorced. Neither of us remained at the old address. We had lived in a doublewide that went into bankruptcy because I couldn't afford it with just my income.

My exWS got in a motorcycle accident and sustained severe injuries. He was unable to tell anyone his address, family members, etc. His driver's license? Had the old address! What made it even worse, the doublewide had been removed from the lot so there was no house there when the police drove there.

His accident was at 4:30 pm. He could have easily died from his injuries. Finally, at 1:30 am, the OW was somehow located and contacted. (They live together but aren't married, so she couldn't even sign for further treatment. Although she did...and got away with it!) The OW is the one who contacted the exWS's adult children.

This situation was obviously more than an inconvenience. As hurt and angry as I have been over his affair, I would not wish this on anyone. But as you noted...he's a big boy who didn't see it as important enough to act on.

Did you try putting it back in the mailbox with a RETURN TO SENDER written across front?

or..even things out by putting her name in places so that she gets her equal share at her new address

you know..
time share info..they will never leave you alone
free Baby magazines

OHHHH how about info for bridal fairs..is she remarried???her abductee may think she is being pushy if she starts getting all this info delivered to her new abode