It seems like I'll be doing just fine, but then I'll look at some posts and read about their problems and BAM!!! My emotions get sparked back up and I feel anger, hurt, betrayal, etc. I know we are doing fine, but me coming here and getting worked up does not help. How do some of you "vets" that have made it stay here without getting worked up or reliving the problems by reading about other's?

Granted, I know we all heal in our own way, but I'm finding it unhealthy to come here so often. In the beginning I found it therapeutic to come here, but now I find it possibly affecting our recovery. Problem is that I'm addicted to a couple of threads and want to see how things work out. I'm hoping for the best for these people but I find myself drawn to other threads that just get me going again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I feel I may have no choice but to leave for a while.

hopeful i felt the same way. Im no vet im only 6 months into recovery but i feel the same way. i pop in once in a while and if i have an update but dont come here as often as i used to either.

Hope:

I am not really a vet but well into recovery. I find myself at the same place as you with regards to this site. I had to ask before I had the urge to come and visit...will that visit be a trigger or therapuetic? If it was going to be a trigger, I just laid off for a while.

I also found that when I was taking a break but wanted to follow up on some threads that had been going for a while, that it was easier for me just to read those threads and not post to them and not look at other new threads regardless of how tempting it was. Since I already knew the story behind those threads, it tended to be less of a trigger.

The important thing is that your number one focus always is on your M and yourself. I agree that this site was invaluable for helping me to understand the trauma that I had been through and deciding which directions needed to be taken. But I also found at some times that certain posts tended to be just rubbing salt into an open wound.

NT

I am not a vet, but I have found that alot of emotions do get relived by me, if I spend alot of time on the website. I have to stop myself from getting caught up in threads that are not relevant to my situation. For the most part, I find it helpful in that what I am going through is not uncommon, and I feel less alone.

All the anger and betrayal is still really close to the surface, so these emotions do get stirred up by some of the posts.

H 4 Fut:

Yes, MANY, Many, many of us have NEEDED a break from this place.

Some early on, some after much time has past .....with others sprinkled in between.

With the Heavy emotions, situation and reactions dealt with here, its only Natural to get somewhat "overloaded" at times.

So hey,
Take a break if you need it.
Nothing wrong with that in the least.

(But if your like many of us ....you'll get the itch to return, once Whatever is bothering you at the moment calms itself inside of you).

However,
if your ready to leave for good........then we wish you all the best on your journey.