I have been thinking voer the 5 weeks we has in Oct and Nov when WH was on strike. It saddens me so to think of all the fun we had together. We laughed and worked around the house and sat on the picket line. Not any money but it was nice. Played alot of darts, talked and felt I wan falling in love again so much. Teh he went back to work and withing 2 weeks started getting distant slowly. Thenhe came home and was begining to show the old verbal abuse and started to seem distant. One night after being out and having dinner and a caouple of galsses of wine we came home. We were sitting side by side on the couch and he said to me "Your not sexually attractive to me after you have a glass of wine" HUH!! I drink a small glass with ice filled up to top with a very minimul amount of wine. I can drink and do not get drunk easy. I had a good dinner and was feeling no ill effects. I was happy and feeling romantic towards him which I had showed him by snuggling and kissing him It was so nice -thought things had not changed. Then he said those horrible words. Things I thought I would never hear again. After much pushing on my part and stating "You have seen her again" He admited it. He was supposed to tell me immmediately -nope 3 weeks before and I knew something was wrong. That old gut feeling screaming at me. I look back on myself and shake my head. Now after thiswkend of his nasty statements I believe it is full blown again. I have asked my son when he gets his back pay to please reimburse me the money I loaned him. I will have enough for one months rent right there.

This has just ruined my Holidays. I am crushed. I keep wanting to reach out to my H and beg him to talk and be honest. But what would that do - would it just set me up for mone hurt down the road. I want to remind him of those 5 weeks on strike. How much closer we were. I am sick to my stomach. Is this really dead? Help me - I think I am wavering with my resolve to leave after the holidays. Help me stay strong.

((( Realtor )))

I am so sorry that this is happening to you and that you feel sad.

Best regards - Carnation

I'm sorry for your pain. My thoughts are with you. I'm sorry I don't have any advice. Just know that someone cares.

What a rat-like comment. I suppose he thinks he's sexually attractive after he's (in Melody's words) been "rutting around." I am sorry that this hurt you. I think you deserve better. Stung

His being back involved explains why he is being so distant from you doesn't it. Plan A is to save your marriage, but Plan B is too, it's just more risky. When you go to Plan B you are at the end of your ability to maintain Plan A. If you are there, then you need to do it without waivering or it isn't Plan B.