I haven't posted for a while . . . and now I have some really dumb questions. First of all, WH has been, well, nice lately. No sniping, no LBs, he calls to let me know if he is going to be late . . . spends time together as a family . . .etc. No evidence of an ongoing A. Could he be coming out of the fog? Or am I being set up for a prompt departure after Christmas? Second, thanks to this site and some head pounding, I finally figured out that SF is his biggest EN. It just isn't happening. I posted a while ago about how to initiate SF, but it seems so bloody AWKWARD. And what if he looks at me like I'm crazy? Should we talk about it first? Or should I just go for it? I am really struggling with this because as more time passes, I wonder if he'll seek it out elsewhere . . .

For a quick summary of my sitch, WH had 2 PAs (that I know about) in less than 2 years. The last DDay was in April. In October, he told me he wanted a D, but that was the last I heard of it. What do you all think?

Thanks - Stung

This is really a back-door bump. But I also wanted to pass on this quote from Jaye Mathisen, over in Negotiating in Marriage, on Snooping:

Hmmmmm. Has he been tested for STD's?

If so, I think I would just do lots of snuggling. See if that helps.

Thanks, Believer. I knew I could count on you!


I doubt it. His physician is a RELATIVE! And I'm sure that WH hasn't passed on the news of his goings-on!