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#1543046 12/20/05 11:53 AM
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Back in the summer I learned that my bf was cheating on me with another male from his college. The signs had been there, that something wasn't right for months, but I listened to his lies. Internet porn, chatting, asking to borrow my webcam. His attitude changed, he was agressive, touchy, just not a nice person. I knew for years that he had experimented when younger, but he told me it was just a phase that he grew out of. Apparently the interest came back and he decided to explore it without me. I found out about the affair from an explicit chat session on his computer with a real friend of his from college. I confronted him yet again and he finally admitted everything, along with him being bi. There were a lot of long talks, details, decisions made on what happens now since he was finally admitting he was bi. That was back in July and August. Since then communications have been more open, we've talked about it from time to time. We agreed that if he felt he needed to act on it again, that he tell me and not lie to me and we decide on how that happens. Well, recently I see old habits coming back. I see his name signing on and off late at night, he's becoming touchy again, along with other things that happened last time before I caught him. We're supposed to be getting married in 6 months, but I need to know the truth. I have asked him how he's doing and he says he has no interest, but other things point otherwise. I am wondering if anyone has any experience with a Kelogger for the computer. I just need to know the truth, so I can stay and work it out and just leave. The stress of not knowing is killing me, and I don't deserve this. If anyone has any experiences with Keyloggers, let me know, a certain brand or whatever. He knows I wanted to do this months ago for another reason, so I did have his permission.

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How old are you? How long have you been together?

I would not marry him at this time with these issues unresolved. Did you go to counseling at the time, or did he or you individually go?

I hope the caution light is blinking loud & clear for you on this one... danger zone, danger zone.

Spare yourself a lot of grief and move on may be the best thing; what are you going to do 3 kids and a mortgage later when he tells you he just needs to "be honest" that he can't deny his "true self" any longer???????????????

MSA


BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years

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