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I haven't posted here in awhile but I do read quiet often here. It has been 4 yrs now (as of Dec 18th) since my H came in and told me of the affair and his son. I am happy to say that we are doing well, happily married and raising all 3 of our children. We have no contact with the OW at all and for that I am thankful. Our children are thriving and growing as is our marriage. To all of those who are just getting on this ride, my prayers are with you. It is not for the faint of heart. I still have triggers and days where I just want to cry or scream or both. But those days are less often now and I have learnt to be more precise in my discussions with my H regarding this matter. If he is doing something that is upsetting to me, I am pretty quick to call him on it and deal with it right then instead of just letting it slide. You can get through this and come out intact.... scarred but intact. My God Bless You All. Merry Christmas.
StillStrong
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SS, congradulations on your marriage! I love success stories. (I assume the 3 children are of the marriage and there is NC--no contact--w/OC also?)
Congrads,
"J"
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa
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I love success stories as well. I'm so glad to hear that all is well with you and your family.
Any legal advice you can share?
My OW is married, we plan to have NC with either her or the OC.
April - Affair
May - OW tells H that she's pregnant
June - OW's H calls to inform me of affair and pregnancy
August - Present - Working diligently on marriage. In counseling at church.
December - OC Born - NO CONTACT!
May - DNA TEST NEGATIVE - MY H IS NOT THE FATHER. THANK GOD.
My new Title - BS w/ OCS (Betrayed Wife with Other Child Scare)
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Jenny - Never assume in these cases. There are 2 COM and the youngest is the OC who I have legally adopted.
Crazyhurt - legal advice... get a good attorney who will fight for your position. Make sure you document everything and keep a good record. If you are planning NC have all correspondence go through the attorneys... do this from the beginning. Don't let the attorney talk you into doing something your not comfortable with.
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