I just found out 3 days ago and I acted horrible I hit him took some of his personal stuff screamed and went berzerk,

My husband and I have been living seperately for about 18 mos. We seperated at first because of the stepchildren lying on me and then my h was unemployed and i suspected he might have had a fling but i didn't even bother to investigate we just agreed that he would move out. One day I came home and he was gone. I was okay for a while but then it hit me like a ton of bricks I wanted my marriage, my step children and him. But he said he would never move back to "my house" I have tried to give him ultimatedium to move back in. But he said no and that he was going to buy a house and we would all move in together. Well it is 17 months later. He put several contracts on a house but they fell thru, well know he lost his job and we are stagnet. I guess we hope that this house will solve our problems (silly us)

Once he was going to come back but then we both decided against. I think that we are so comfortable like this.

I ended up checking his vm without his knowledge, he has several women calling him.

I am pretty sure one is romantic interest because she wanted to come over at 5AM. I think it would be easy at this point to get him to comeback home because he lost his job.

Please tell me what to do next? I broke all the LB rules. I am so distraught. Is there any hope for my marriage? WHat do I say to him where do I go from here? He should be coming over late tonight or early in the morning? Do I continue to snoop?