My wife told me that she is no longer in love with me, but still loves me. I want to get some kind of help but she won't go for anything. I've suggested counseling w/ religious figure or MC or even reading over one of marriage builders the books together. She just keeps telling me she needs time, I know we time to fix things but I feel that time with no positive action will only make things worse.

I'm very depressed and am having a lot of trouble dealing with this. I want to make my marriage strong again.

How should I try and get her to get help with me?

I hate to break it to you but usually when the other spouse says something like this, someone else is involved.

What are you thoughts on this?? Do you have suspicions??

Marriage Builders is a great place to start. You may want to post this on General Questions though, that thread gets more visits per day.

There's lots of good information here so get to reading!

Coach,
She said that there isn't anyone else and I believe her. We got married young (her19, me21) and she has commented recently that she has finally found herself. She has some works friends and they like going to see bands together and dancing.
I told her many times that it makes me feel like crap when she goes out without me. I've told her that I want to go out with her(even though I'm not really into it). I really think it hurting our marriage and she says its her only source of fun.

We defiantly need help and she doesn't see it that way....she just needs time......that's BS

Mark -
I too was in this exact situation, except I'm the wife, and both my husband and I felt the way your wife says she feels. I was so sure that I no longer was inlove with my husband, and even imagining living separately made me ecstatic. However, it's easier painting a picture than seeing the real deal. My husband and I were on the brink of divorce, niether one of us thinking we cared for the other. And then, all of a sudden it hit us both. We just lost touch of what we were together. I don't know if there was a moment or if it was a very slow process, but now things are great. I look forward to him coming home everynight from work. Intimacy has increased 110% - from nothing to atleast every other night.
In your situation, I think you need to take what she said seriously. She could very well feel that way - BUT it may also be something that's just lost in her. Going out with friends, drinking, dancing.....that's all fun. I definately think you should go with her. Even if it's not something you enjoy doing, do it for her. Be fun with her, dance if you normally don't dance, change the little things that are important to her (in this aspect). But also try - Be kind to her, but not too kind. Treat her like she's important, but don't dote all over her. Go forward, but pull away at the same time. The more mysterious you are, the more intrigued she'll be.
As for giving her time, for what? I agree that's BS!
How long have you been married? Do you have any children?
I hope things work out for you!

sjdv21,
Thanks for the advice and letting me hear your cituation. I'm taking it all in.
Our 7th anniversary is in 5 days(happy anniversary to us), we have 2 kids (b5, g2).

What kind of things did you start doing together? How did you find that common ground again?

For our anniversary I think I'm just going to do a simple diner out together(i already bought her a mp3 player)? thoughts?

WOW! Our situations are closer than I thought! We have 2 kids (G-5, B-2) and we had our 7 year anniversary this past August. Welcome to the 7 year itch! Most likely, that's probably what it is. We started doing little things with the kids, bowling, dinners. We now make it a point to have OUR time, putting the kids to bed no later than 8:00, watching movies together, going in the hot tub. I've noticed that after 7 years of marriage and 2 small children, things in the relationship became very stale. Although we both love our kids, they became our relationship. There was nothing left for just him and me.
Is she willing to work on things? I'll probably be the only person to tell you this, but I HATED counseling. We both walked away hearing two different things the counselor said, and then would argue about it. Do you have family that would take the kids for a weekend? Could you surprise her with a weekend getaway? What about making her dinner? This all seems cliche, but chilli doesnt taste good without any spice!
Do you know what she's looking for? If the two of you split (God forbid), what would she want from her next beau? Be him - do the things he would do for her without changing who you are.