I have not posted on here in about 2 months. For those of you who know my story and responded to my post's I just wanted to come back and give you an update.
I moved out and got my own place about a month and a half ago. It is the first time I have ever lived by myself. It was scary at first and sometimes lonely, but it is refresshing to be doing something for myself. My ex has continued to persue a relationship with the OW and has flown to NY twice to see her, he has also put himself in debt buying crazy things and even getting a NY phone number so that he could talk to her. He is not being very responsible with his kids, he let some friend of his move into the apartment. A real nice situation 2 grown men and 2 kids....GREAT
I still see my step kids almost every week, they are having a hard time but they are doing OK.
I have not seen my ex since the day I saw him to give him a check to pay the rent. I knew that was the last time I would ever see him. It was a very cold meeting.
I have spoke to him a couple times to get some of my mail, but I just had him leave it out for me so I didn't have contact with him.
Some of the family and his new roomate have said he constantly talks about me, and when he asked about me to his sister she replied by saying you guys are not divorced yet! I was a little mad that she even said something like that. I would never even consider taking him back. He replied to her comment by saying she would never talk to me again. I'm not sure what that meant and to be honest I really don't care.
I have started dating again...I find it very refreshing and a great way to help me move past this devastating time in my life. I have went on a handful of dates and have meet some really nice guys. I am taking it really slow and just enjoying life.
I look back at everything I have gone through and all the times I felt like I was just going to die. I just couldn't believe those things were happening to me. I have come so far. I feel great about the recovery I have made from a bad situation. I still have days that I take a stroll down memory lane...the good and the bad....but I realize I can't do anything about the past and I don't want to stop living my life.
For the people that are going through an A. Keep your chin up and follow your heart. This site got me through alot of the hardest days of my life. I will always be greatful for the wise and caring words shared by other members. I think there are only a couple things in life that compare to the devastation that is felt by experiencing an affair. It is not something that is easy to go through, but you will get through it one way or another.
Good luck to everyone and may life treat you kind.
