my husband and i have been together for more than a year, total. i became pregnant very early in our relationship and we now have a seven month old daughter. we married in july. since the birth of our daughter getting him to have sex with me has been literally like pulling teeth. it seems i have to mope around for a few days to get him to even want to touch me, sexually. he seems to have no problems cuddling with me or just kissing me but when i go to touch him, he tells me no with little to no explanation. i've come to the conclusion that he could very well be having an affair but i cannot prove anything. it tears me up inside when he denies making love to me. i have very low self esteem and being with him sexually always makes me feel better about myself. it makes me feel that there is someone who loves me for me. however, now that i feel i have to basically beg or make him feel bad for not having sex with me it doesn't have the same affect anymore. i just feel more worthless and depressed.

Dear Ashley,
It sounds as if you and I live in the same or similar worlds. The only difference is the baby. I can no longer have children, but I SO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH!!!! I feel the same exact way you do. They give no explanation but boy the sure act like touching us is going to poison them. I have no answers other than I completely understand you. It wont make your problem go away, but there is someone who understands you in this world.
D