Remember me? I posted to your other thread.
"Should I care?" This is unanswerable. Do you care? You imply that you're bothered, and given your wife's recent honesty about her desires, I would say you do care, you fear and you want to take a stand for yourself.
"This really bothers me. I don't see how it honors or adds to our marriage. I feel offended. I feel scared. I have a boundary on opposite sex relationships for the good of our marriage."
Lots of stuff you can say if it fits you.
Even if you've screwed up in the past. If you've flirted and done the same things. You stopped, right? You got it in your head that you don't have to flirt, have the attention from anyone else but your spouse. Even then, when that wanes, you can provide for yourself. I thought you got that. What we've done in the past does not allow others to do it to us in the present.
You've learned a lot of stuff here. Especially about conflict avoidance...
"I know if I bring it up, she'll say something to the affect of I've done stuff like that..."
Don't assume anything about what your wife thinks or will do or say. Ask. Give her respect. Don't talk yourself out of conflict. It may not even be conflict. Ask. Listen. Tell.
Is your wife still reading MB? I thought her top EN might be attention (a form of affection) and her Myspace makes more sense. How are you doing filling this EN for her?
(Not nosy...I still relate to your wife and your effort for your marriage.)
LA
