So much for my happy, peaceful post this morning - I've just received a phonecall from my atty re the D.

STBX has accused me of harrassment - and is trying to get an injunction taken out against me.

This is because of the exposure I did - writing to OW's family, and STBX's and OW's place of work, trying to end the A and save my M. The last letter I sent was in June - I haven't sent one since then.

I think he has always been angry about the exposure, but that naming the Omelette in the D papers has made them both real mad! How pathetic - at least I hope so - relying on letters months old to try and make a case!

My atty said he doesn't have a chance, but could I give an assurance that I wouldn't be sending any more letters? I said sure, that I was quite happy never to speak to or about STBX ever again.

So typical of him to leave this all to the last minute, too. My atty has been trying to contact him since May! Then he gets himself an atty (tho he said he couldn't afford one) and goes in there with a big bundle of so-called evidence, at the last minute possible!

And to take me to court - what the h"ll is he thinking??? I won't have to pay a penny, but he's paying full whack for his atty. Guess Omelette is helping him pay after all.

It's a pretty sure guess that the exposure and naming OW in the D papers has p!ssed them both off big time. I hope they LB about it to each other frequently. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> This is nothing but petty vindictiveness, IMHO.

He's an a$$. This marriage is so over! No-one could reconcile after something like this, I guess.

But I'm still gonna have a great Christmas.

Christmas hugs to all! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

If they have been discussing getting married in the Catholic church .... they'd need to annul your marriage ... naming OW as "OW" is going to mess up their pukey plans.

HA!

Alph.

Hi Alphin,

Just logged in after some time away in Cornwall...I now have a ton of Clotted Cornish Cream!

I saw your happy post and smiled then I saw this one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />. We are going through the criminal system and civil court cases with hubby's brother, SIL and bent solicitors. It's an incredibly long story and has been ongoing for nearly a year but the great thing is my MIL is now safe, happier and finally being treated for her Dementia. We are going through the long and laborious legal system to get her money back and see the other side convicted. Simply horrible!

Angry, cowardly, stupid, desperate people without a leg to stand on try and bring you down and slur your character through the courts because they will blame everyone else but themselves. Cornered rats! As we have found out UK courts prefer cold hard facts to raging emotions. It is very hard to hold back when people are ranting about you and spouting rubbish but you leave it in the hands of your solicitor and DO NOT RISE TO IT.

The timing is highly dubious...."harrassment was...er...about 5 months ago but I did nothing about it until now when we have to divvy up the money and make this divorce happen. I thought I'd get an injunction and make her out to be a loony so I look BIG in the eyes of the Scrambled Egg Omellete"

His parents must be so proud <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Twit!

Make sure you let your solicitor know that you were following a well worn path laid out by a marriage therapist to fight for your family. That you were shining a torch on their secret relationship and had every right to do so as his wife.

Then sit back and let them tie themselves up in knots....the more they talk and say stupid stuff the better!

Enjoy your Christmas break and r e l a x

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks, Strong. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Have a good time yourself! And all the best for the new year!

Alph.

Alphin

I suspect paradise has been getting a little cold and greasy recently. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

This tells you quite a lot.

If they were blissfully happy, they wouldn't give a toss about anything else. They're not blissfully happy. I'd guess that Tortilla has been giving Don Juan a hard time (I would also suspect her introduction to your daughters ripped a hole in the fantasy fabric - and a house full of photos of your lover's children by his legal wife is hardly a passion promoter, is it?). Your stbx, who has shown that he spares no efforts to blame others for his pain, has instantly projected his discomfort onto you (standard channel).

As always, he's done it stupidly, made a mess of it, and caused himself even more pain. But I guess it gets Tortilla off his back for now, and gives them both something external to get angry with. And it gives him a sense of self-righteous dignity, to counteract the sense that the whole world sees him as a weak, selfish sh*t.

You can't claim harrassment for something that happened for a short period, many months ago. You certainly can't claim harrassment by your wife when you've just run out on her and your kids. The solicitor who took your stbx's instructions must have been in knots of laughter at this idiot wasting his money on such nonsense.

You now know that your exposure efforts were productive, caused them both discomfort, and have remained a festering issue between them. You have a weapon; don't be too quick to waive the right to use it again.

Enjoy your holiday. (And don't forget that your ILs have a foot in both camps - so be careful what you say to them. Stbx will pump them for info, especially for your reaction to what he's done.)

TA

TA,

I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you've done for me these past months - my heart lifts whenever I see you've posted to me, even before I read the content!

You are a very wise person. God bless you and your loved ones this Christmas.

Alph.

Alphin,

Have a great, safe trip!

Cat

Thanks Cat!

Have a lovely time this Christmas!

Alph.

Have a great trip and a the merriest of Xmas possible. I'm sure the new year will be better than 2005!

Hi CC.


That's one thing I'm certain of!

{{{Christmas hugs for CC}}}

Alph.

Hey Alph! You got some very wise posts here and some good points made. Sometimes WS and OP only have in common their "hatred" of the BS to keep them going. If that is the case then you naming Omelette (which I agree with and LOVE)just fuels that fire. Best that you stay away from it and take the advise given to not say anything to your IL's about this latest trick of stbx's. Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful children.

Alphin, sorry to hear abt the latest shennigans. However, I hope you had a good Christmas weekend with DDs.

You know my WH and yours are almost in the same running for one of foggiest WS. I'm just hoping that my WH won't do the same to me when I file for a D. I don't have the financial means for a long protracted divorce proceeding.

We can only proceed to hope that all things will pass, including these difficult times. And 2006 will continue to be a better year for us!

~A

am up and sick.

yea, it's the stuff that keeps stupid affairs going! their common bond is the revision of history...think and chew on that ok? If they cannot make you to be bad guy, then they're up creek without paddle...in eyes of the world.

They can't justify it!

so let them love bust together.

I also named OW in divorce papers..I named TWO of them in fact!

How's that for light of day? I sure did!

And now that exposure has occurred, let things die for a while..when court comes up, whammo! Another legal dose of exposure! That counts too ok? It will help you kill the affair.

Just go silent. Run silent dear. That will make the affairees turn that self hatred on each other.

I hope you SCRAMBLE THE OMLETTE!

If I can help, let me know!

However, I think you should change your xh's name to Humpty Dumpty...the one sitting on the wall? He has great fall? You know the rest my dear.

Anyway, omlette is going to get scrambled. And you can LB from afar! Yes you can!

First step in killing affair...is through SILENCE. And DARK.

If they can't have YOU to fight with, then they are going to have to take that rage somewhere right?