Well and a very Merry Christmas to me and DD13. I receive an email from my lawyer on Tuesday afternoon that Dork has filed for divorce. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> Well his intention of divorce. Can't do that until June. What an a$$. And the timing is very suspect. Last year, the same day, I reported him to the military. Gee, ya think this is a coincidence? NOT!!!

And my STBXMIL is paying for the divorce. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />THe MIL enabler who "supports" whatever decision her baby makes. RIGHT OR WRONG.

I am 100% sure that Ditchpig4 has given Dork an ultimatum. Her or me. So she wins by default. She has the crumbs. The remnants of the H that I married. I would never accept the WS back. HATE him.

But I am still devastated. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Not just that this is now a reality. But because Dork has permanently CHOSEN to give up any access to DD13. Because DD13 has told him repeatedly that she will never see him while he is with ANY OW whether we are married or not. Because he broke his repeated promises to her to NEVER do this again. AND because Dork had had an entire 18 months or so to receive IC for the issues that he has but does not recognize. So all his excuses about no money no car to get to the IC etc are just a crock. And now he says he will see the IC. Too little too late. And DD13 is DONE.

He has broken all promises regarding our LS except the support. And that is a good thing. But whatever.

I will NEVER understand what he is thinking he will gain. He seems to think that DD13 will eventually change her mind. Um… NO! Not for YEARS if ever.

Me? I am broken and bleeding. I will NEVER be able to see how tearing up our family is worth what he gains. A ditchpig4 that is still married. A wh0re that is in BANKRUPTCY and has done it before. A DP4 that lies and cheats with a MM. And considering that Dorks #1 EN was FINANCIAL SUPPORT this is the BEST he can do? OMG! How insulting how hateful and how pathetic.

Well, no matter that I still have feelings for what Dork used to be I HATE him and who he is now.

I have no hope. I had a WISH for a CHANCE at reconciliation and I prayed for that. And the MBers that know me know how hard I fought. All to no avail. Empty promises and the most evil disrespectful treatment me AND of DD13.

So I am off to the lawyers in a couple of hours to see what Dork put in his petition. I would appreciate prayers for me and DD13. We need it.

We will survive. But a HUGE part of us died on Tuesday.

And a Merry Christmas to all.
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So sorry this happened right before Christmas. The only consolation I can give you is that you will learn not to care about him anymore. It happened to me. The man my husband used to be is just a distant memory now.

Prayers to you and your daughter.

I'm sorry for your pain and I will definitely pray for you.

{{FAA}} You and DD have a Merry Christmas and a new beginning. Love ya!

You and your DD will be in my thoughts and prayers.

(((((FAA))))))))

My prayers are with ya for Christmas...i hope that you and your DD have a WONDERFUL christmas despite dork...You are a great mom and have a great daugther -enjoy eachother.

Hang in there....

THanks Dorry. I am sitting on pins and needles WAITING to go see what terrbile stuff he put in his petition. I KNOW I;m a good MOM. ANd I am truly blessed with DD13 and my toher DS and DD and even my SS18 who is having the worst time with this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

We WILL enjoy Chirstmas. As Bob Pure keeps telling me. :fake it til you make it!"

So I am taking DD13 with me and ropping her off at the amll. THEN after the lawyer, I have neought time to settle down and hten WE will shop some little stuff and go out for lunch.

I WILL NOT get sucked in by his BS. Christmas is for Family and I have mine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

[censored] err Dork aka Dumba$$ will be with his enabling mother. and hten with the lying evil DP4. No comparison to HONESTY, love and family.

Phooey on him.

((((FAA))))

My family will include you and yours in our prayers tonight.

Sorry for the crummy timeing of this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

DD and you are stong and will get through this!

Stay Strong!

{{{{{{{{{{{{fightingalone-again}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I am so sorry. You and your daughter are in my prayers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Don't give him the power to ruin your Christmas. His timing is cruel in my opinion. I know there is no right time for getting a divorce but it would have been kinder for him to wait until after Christmas. It's like dealing with Jekyll and Hyde - two totally different people in the same body. The pre and post affair husband. Jerkyll & Hyde perhaps is more appropriate.

I love your venom. It's been sadly lacking in me. Keep your chin up. You'll come out the other side of this with dignity.

THanks WTF. btw I always have a little laugh at that! I always say that sums up this enitre tragedy.

Ah the timing. Now that is an issue. Becasue it was EXACTLY timed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
THat's what makes me so MAD and so hurt. Dork KNEW I wasn't going to do anything until the New year so that We could have a good Christmas.

And thank you for the prayers.

Well of all the underhanded sneaky WS BS, this TAKES the cake! I got served the divorce petition and he filed JULY 15th 2005. Less than a month after the last time we had SF. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Where the heck is the steaming volcano head? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Venom? TT, now I am beyond venom. I can't even count how many times he has told me and DD13 that he can't be with us "at this time" Cake-eating SOB Kept us hanging on by a string to that stupid hope he would wake the he!! up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

And that is so not playing nice.

I have instructed my lawyer to file a notice of Defence. I am going to fight him on EVERYTHING! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I spent over a darned YEAR trying to get him to settle the agreement. I just wanted to get the financials done. And he stalled. ANd when I wanted to file for divorce on adultery proceedings in October, he wouldn't give me the papers. He had already FILED the dumba$$. YEt he stalled and stalled and stalled.

Now I have the option of filing adultry proceedings at any time. SO when I tire of this it will be my otion. I hav eno reason to make it easy. And my lawyer just gave me some new information that makes me entitled to TWICE the monthly support total. ANd his salary is over 6K more than he said it was via a letter to my lawyer. AND he "forgot" an additional year of cohabitation. AND he also said he "separated in Septemeber of 2004. WTH? Hmmm that is 2 years of pension benefits that he tried to "ooops, I forgot about that" I don't appreciate getting ripped of to what I am entitled.

AND he spelled my last name wrong! Of all the dumba$$ things to do. The papers are not legal. roflmao. BUt, I will save that for another day.

Word to WS's. NEVER PO a BS like me. I WILL be "upset". Yes not MB. But it is righteous anger. And YES it is a Control thing. But only for me. I can and do choose how I react. And He is NOT getting anything he wants without a fight. I have fought long and hard to save this marriage. He can fight long and hard to get out.

Fair is Fair.

And I am going to enjoy my CHristmas. He is NOT. Surprise!

We are off to see some Christmas sights.

FA-A. Something occurred to me reading something you wrote.

Just for a moment - imagine being your WH.

Just IMAGINE what it feels like behind his eyes. This failed man knowingly abandoning his daughter and running scraed from teh commitments he has. Eschewing every good an decnet tool God made for Men's use, and using lies, decieit, cowardice, betrayal and the only way he has of covering up the ever widening rotting core within him is more of teh same. No medication, no salve, no single decent act, instinct or behaviour within him.

Imagine living like that.

Imagine he[i][/i]ll. Seperation from love and hope? Sounds to me thats where WH is holidaying right now. * shudder *

Whatever I have been through I would not swap a minute of my worst experiences for a minute of WHs best affair experience. I couldn't live with the indignity at the soiling of my manhood - of my principles.

Breath deep the freedom you have earned through your hard recovery efforts, decency and forgiveness. Your hurt is salved by dignity, and pride in your conduct. Love of your dependents and friends. Faith in OUR mighty God.

Your WH lives like Gollum, in dark places feeding his hungers, and caring for nothing but his "PRECIOUSSSS" Ditchpig4, who is his self medication of the day.

Fa-A I am PROUD of you Girl !

But to quote Mr T " I PITY the foo'". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I am embarassed at his repeated failure to be a man. He shames my gender. And despite all this, if he repents you will consider taking him back.

Amazing love.

But time to leave Gollum to his "preciousss".

All blessings, dear friend.

Ok Hun now it is going to be up to you to make him really think and big. When you hear from him and you will. Thank him for his Christmas gift. Tell him that was the one BIG thing you wre wishing for. Do not let him know how mad you are. LEt him think you are tickled. Let him get served by your attorney without a word from you- hopefully he can get served for New Years Eve. What a way to start a new year off. Oh yes Dork you are going to loose alot more money and owe back support. Sounds good to me. How about putting OW name in and getting her for what do they call that alienation of affection? Hmmm - boy that could shake up the old love nest. You are so much better off with out this Dork A$$ taht he is.

i believe that only some states allow a BS to sue for alienation of affection...mine doesn't (i went online and checked and there are only about 3 or 4 states that do)

ALL states should!!!

well at least name her with the adultery

Definately thank him for the gift. It will completely throw him for a loop. Might insert "God really does answer prayers!"

When the anger lessens, and it will, just stay focused.

I wish his actions had been differant, but Im GLAD you finally have a very, very clear look at his intentions.

realtor* Loved that post!

FAA

I am so sorry that he is putting you and DD through this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> It is starting to sound like he planned this months ago (like before last July). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I suspect that he has been stringing you along to coincide with some legal plan that his lawyer has cooked up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Let your lawyer know about this suspecion. He / She may have a better idea what WS & his lawyer are up to.

Protect yourself and that DD of yours. You'll be in our prayers tonight.

Stay Strong!

BTW: The posting contains some of my patented Cyber aromatheropy scents. I chosen to send you the "Peace and Tranquility" scent. Breath Deaply, relax, and enjoy the Holiday Weekend with DD, Family, & Friends. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The part which died needed to FAA. I am sorry but enough is enough, and now you can begin the process of re-building your life, and your daughter can get back to the business of being a young teen growing into womanhood without the problems of her dad on her shoulders any longer.

I pray for the day when all of this truly is in the past and life shines for you both once again.

{{{{{FAA and DD13}}}}}

For myself I just bought an assortment of Eucalyptus/Mint scented stuff for relaxation. I just love that smell! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />