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Is anyone comfortable enough to share the ball park figure that was spent for legal fees, court costs, etc. related to establishing CS and V? We are considering going this route, but don't know if we can afford to see it through.
Thanks!
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I don't know enough to answer this, except to say that when I filed for divorce I learned that attorney's retainers run from $500 to well over $3500. Then $200-$400 per hour I'm sure at least. It largely depends on how difficult or easy OW makes it also I'm sure. Others probably have a much better idea on what they actually spent or if I'm off base with the costs.
MSA
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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My H and I have just priced an attorney. We are apart of a legal services network (the kind where you pay $39.00 a month, and the law firms charge you 20% - 50% less).
The firm that we chose gave us a free consultation and in order to retain their services, it will cost $2,500 up front. We are asking for assitance in setting up Child support. We don't want visitation, or anything else. The attorney said that our case should be very simple and may take about 10 hours of work. If you want to set up visitation, it may be more. It looks like we are being charged $250 an hour.
April - Affair
May - OW tells H that she's pregnant
June - OW's H calls to inform me of affair and pregnancy
August - Present - Working diligently on marriage. In counseling at church.
December - OC Born - NO CONTACT!
May - DNA TEST NEGATIVE - MY H IS NOT THE FATHER. THANK GOD.
My new Title - BS w/ OCS (Betrayed Wife with Other Child Scare)
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We were very lucky in that our attorney gave us free advice (the attorney we consulted for divorce). So, H represented himself and OW paid all attorney fees. If it would have gotten nasty our attorney would have represented us. The more you disagree and argue, the more it costs....
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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Divorce - $1800 ($3000 retainer fee)
CS - OW did it through the state - no costs
Visitation - $750
me-34
xH-38
DD 10/03
D-day 11/03 (cellphone)
Talked-Day 01/04
H left-02/04
Divorce-05/04
xH left -false recovery 1 week- 08/04 -told about OC
OC-07/04
xH left -false recovery 6 weeks- 12/01/04
12/02/04 DESTRUCTION OF MILY MUST END
1/17/05 - Started dating
11/05 - CS and visitation established at Court
02/28/06 - xH moves back after 2 yrs!
10/16/07 - asked xH to leave - he's still in a relationship with OW
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We spent close to $2000 to establish P and get a temporary order for CS and visitation and we never actually went to court. Other woman is now planning on moving out-of-state, so we will be taking her to court to try and stop her, which will probably cost just as much again....ugh.
WS: 37 BS: 36 "highschool sweethearts"
married 8/98
ds: 12/96 dd: 11/99 ds: 5/02
separated 4/04
A summer '04
D-Day: 9/8/2004
recovery begins 10/04
moves back in 11/04
OC born (girl) 4/05 (Legal C 8/05)
"Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives me something to do, but it gets me nowhere."
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