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#1548500 12/28/05 05:02 PM
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Hi Everyone,
I am new to the site so be patient with me.
I am going through, yet again, another affair of my husbands. Yeah, I have stuck it out for 13 years. Some good, but mostly looking back ...sad. The first 2 years we were married he had an affair with and older woman whom he had known prior to us meeting. This relationship resulted in a illegitimate child. The relationship ended and everything seemed to be much better since both of us had dedicated ourselves to church and those principles we learned there in themselves helped us fill our love banks. But little did we know what we didn't get help with would hurt us. One thing was my resentment and truely recovering from what we now had to deal and pay for... the mother of the child and the child. Within myself this became a blame game. I continued to habour these feelings trying my best to conceal them. It got to where I showed my true feelings often without even knowing it. Although my husband did. He had another cyber affair. Yes I believe you can have an affair online. The emotions were there and he rushed home straight after work every morning (3:30am)to be online with her. It too ended, she lost her job because of it ...being online at work with him. Again I forgave and tried my best to NOT be resentful. I had my ideas about another affair but could not prove it after the cyber girl. Then when I thought all was well last June I had a call from a 51 year old woman who claimed that my husband was involved with her and that he had told her we had not been together for the last 2 years. Meaning, that this affair had been going on for the last 18 months. Now....we are at the point where he has been put out of our home and we have went to counseling...he sometimes ....me every week. We are trying to reconcile..he says he loves me...but the signs are nothing like before (no love units being banked) I know he is still seeing 51yrold. Our children 8 and 10, girl and boy are crushed. The other affairs they know nothing about. This one they know everything. What is your opinion. I am very faithful to my Christian Faith and want first and foremost to do all I can to do the right thing. Do you think this marriage can rise from the dead?

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I don't know what to say but I'm sure you will be getting replies from other, more experienced ones soon. I can tell you that the reactions are pretty harsh when the WS is a repeat offender. Read my posts under "lost and afraid" to see what I mean. I do think that you deserve much better, AND he is still seeing this OW. That has to end for there to be any progress on your marraige. Please take care of yourself and your children..

Me - 33
WS - 38
Children -
14 boy
13 girl
12 girl
11 boy
10 boy
4 boy
3 months pregnant
married 4 months, together 2 years, friends for 20 years
D-day from EA - 10/19/05
NC from 10/19/05


Me - BS 34 WH - 39 Married 9/17/05 (2nd marraiges for both) Friends since childhood EA - 8/05-10/05 D-day: 10/19/05 (I moved out) Moved back in together: 12/7/05 I moved back out 2/22/06 due to emotional abuse and very mild physical abuse 7 children between ages of 6 months and 15. I moved back in on 11/25/06. We are still each in IC...

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