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I thought I would give an update for those that remember me.
H and I are in the process of working things out. I in no way think this will be easy and it is/has been a long slow process.
OW called frequently in the begining, even calling me at work to ask in H and I were working things out.
She seems to have let up for now.
Visitation is legal, although OW has made it clear she doesn't like H and I to "play house w/ her d." She seems to be accepting the situation.
I suppose if H continues to lie or see OW I can not stop it. I have lost the innocence I once had and don't expect to get that back. But I also will not let the anger and hurt rule my life.
H and I are getting along well for the most part. We have our moments and there are times we still have to work at things.
It's been a long road to get to where we are at.
Married 5 years. Together almost 14 years.
Age 30
DDay March 2004
OC Born June 2004
2nd Dday Feb 2005
My daughter was born 7/22/05.
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i will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you wife. i like happy endings. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Carolyn
BW -33 (Me)
WH-38
M- 4 years/together 10
OC (girl) born 03/03
D-Day 08/02
True friends stab you in the front - Oscar Wilde
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Wife,
I'm very glad to hear things are better between you and your H!
{{{hugs}}}
me-34
xH-38
DD 10/03
D-day 11/03 (cellphone)
Talked-Day 01/04
H left-02/04
Divorce-05/04
xH left -false recovery 1 week- 08/04 -told about OC
OC-07/04
xH left -false recovery 6 weeks- 12/01/04
12/02/04 DESTRUCTION OF MILY MUST END
1/17/05 - Started dating
11/05 - CS and visitation established at Court
02/28/06 - xH moves back after 2 yrs!
10/16/07 - asked xH to leave - he's still in a relationship with OW
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Wife,
Thanks for posting your update. Best of luck to you...it won't be easy and it may not work, but believe me, you won't ever regret giving it another try.
Hard to deal w/a conflict avoider because they don't communicate well. Make sure he is making a big effort in that direction. As you can see from the posts, the marriages that truly recover are the ones in which the WS takes full responsibility for his/her actions and works like heck to make things right.
Here's to kissing 2005 good-bye. Hope 2006 brings you happiness and a fulfilling marriage.
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wife30 that is great to hear and I hope you can get on with your life and your baby will flourish in a home with 2 loving parents. Hard to believe that it was not too long ago we were waiting for you to have your baby and now this development- Great!
Hope that 2006 is the year for us all.
ALL OW DON'T RESPOND OR COMMENT ON ANYTHING I POST EVER. I'M NOT HERE TO SPEAK TO U!
I am here to speak to other BSs that Can relate to my situation and OUR shared experiences.
I COULD CARE LESS WHAT ANY OW HAS TO SAY ABOUT ANYTHING, EVER!
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