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Hey everyone,
It's a little over a yr since i found out about my H affair with a co-worker.It lasted 2 months sex was five times.I found out it ended right there.
At this time all these feelings we kept locked up for 12 yrs just came pouring out.Oh my god we were so in love and did'nt know it.How could we keep this to ourselves.Well we were afraid the other did'nt feel the same way.We were wrong.We are so in love.My H is great wonderful,would do anything for me.Is a great dad.A totally did'nt person.I love him and i know he loves me more than anything in this world.
Why is it that I still get sad?Why is it that i think i could feel better if he got down on one knee and asked me all over to marry him again?I want this so bad.
Thanks,
#1mom
Me BW 31
Him FWH 30
Married 13yrs
D-day 12/04
NC right away
New job
Some set backs due to whole truth coming out over a few months.Other wise great first and only recovery.
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Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 173
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I know that is my fantasy right now in life. I think I would be through torturing myself with triggers and find forgiveness 100% if he dropped to his knee and asked me to marry him all over again.
H told me shortly before our 10 yr anniversary that he had planned on surprising me with a renewal of our wedding vows on our 10 yr. He had an elaborate scheme to surprise me as he worked at our church back when he thought of this idea. But after he lost his job there in January and then then this nightmare started he dropped that plan.
But just knowing he had wanted to do that before the A had touched me. Made the anniversary bitter sweet this year, too.
But I know how you feel, it would be so nice if we could all just start all over, new and fresh. And then get it right this time.
Harmonie
BS Me - 43
EX/WH - 35 b-day 8/22
D day 8/21/05
Separated 4/2/07
DS #1-16 mine
DD #1-15 mine
DD #2-9 ours
DS #2-6 ours
Married 12 yrs
together 13 1/2
"Hang on and keep your belt tight and hands in the the car at all times, this is a bumpy ride."
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Don't over analyze it ... have you told him ....if he got down on one knee and asked me all over to marry him again?I want this so bad. -rh-
Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.
Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
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Thats just it.We would get it right.We have talked about it.He says i have to be well.I think this would do the job.
#1mom
Me BW 31
Him FWH 30
Married 13yrs
D-day 12/04
NC right away
New job
Some set backs due to whole truth coming out over a few months.Other wise great first and only recovery.
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