Okay so two days before Christmas. I found cell phone calls that FWS made to "a friend" Since this is not the first incident. I THOUGHT we were both on the same page.. that we would practice Radical Honesty... Well doesn't that mean everything is laid out on the table..No secrets???

Well here comes that "feeling again" so I go back thru and comb his cell phone records and lo and behold.. there is a phone call made to his ex wife. who he is supposed to be in NC with. Yes he has 3 children with her but we provided them with their own phone lines, their own cell phone, and arranged visitation thru an intermediary should she ever want to see them. There is no reason for him to call her.. SO i confronted him AGAIN!!!!! " Is there anything you need to tell me about?" and think real hard cuz if you are hiding anything, this is it". COmplete silence and then after about 2 minutes.. he finally said.. well there is this one incident that happened on 12/16 (his ex wife bday) .. there was a strange number on my caller ID at work so I jotted it down and *67 from my cell phone to see who it was.. It was XXX.. I said " who is this?" and she said "Oh you don't know who this is now anymore?" and he said OH.. and she said "so you can't wish no body a happy birthday?" and he said "No that's really not my place anymore and hung up.. Now that is VERY likely as the call was only 2 minutes and there were no calls made to her either before or after that date.. that was it! that one time.. but that one time has set me sooooo far back now..

First in Nov with the emails to this one girl that were sexual in nature.. then this phone "friendship" with his best friends wife that he claims nothing was inappropriate but they talked excessively without my knowing.. and now this?? Why couldn't have have just told me back when all this came out before Christmas..

he says he was scared that I would get mad and want to argue and fuss.. that he had already screwed up royally witht he other incidents that he knew if he told me about this, that would be too much for me to handle and he didnt' want ot hurt me anymore.. I keep telling him.. "just tell me the truth.. that's all I want".. Just try me and see .. I promise i wouldn't punish him for willingly telling me the truth.. Yes I may not like it.. Sure i will ask questions but then I'll get over it and move on.. and thank him for his honesty.. He can't just automatically assume that I'm going to fly off the handle if he doesn't even give me a chance to prove him wrong.. and the times I did get super pissed is b/c I find out and then I hvae to confront him.. the cycle is nevernding..

Find out.. I confront.. he confesses, promises no more.. I find out.. I contront. he confesses.. I'm sick of this!!.. I know it's not anything to be so mad about b/c i do believe he had no intentions of calling her and didn't realize who it was and that is why he called the number and it was her ..but still.. it's not just cheating anymore..it's the lies that are killin' me..

UUUUUUGGGGGHHHHH! Sorry i just had to vent.. I know I know.. i'm thinking so stupid right now!

It sounds like he was afraid to tell you. But I know I would be angry too.

Your 29 and been married THREE times?? Maybe third times the charm, but its not looking good...