We have had a lot of ups and downs in our marriage. I will be the first to tell you that after seven years, we still have not figured each other out. My wife tried to leave me on at least 2 other occasions besides this one. First time, we were married about 8 months. We went to see her sister, since my wife sister house was nasty, we stayed with my childhood, family, female friend that our family have knew for over 15 years. Somehow her sister convinces her that I and the childhood friend slept together. The next day at her cousin reception, my wife started acting crazy. I was shocked. She tried to fight me. I was not the aggressor. She swung so hard and missed that she tripped and fell. When she charged at me I held her off me by giving her a stiff arm. She then said that I choke her. She lives that story to this day. The next day she drained the bank accounts and move to Las Vegas. Where her Aunt was living. Her aunt called me and said how sick she was. Her aunt also kicked her out of her house. I told my wife that I was not moving out there just to break down and move to Las Vegas.

When I got out there, we still had problems. It went from me cheating on her to her aunt not liking me. One day she got so upset with her aunt that she brought her problems home. I told her that she needs to let her aunt know how she feels. So I suggested that she write a note. I volunteered to type it for her. My wife sealed the envelope and then took it to the mailbox herself. The next day her aunt came over and said let’s take a ride. Seven hours later, she came home screaming that she wanted a divorce. She filed for separation. Later to recant and we stay together for another year. Then she ran to Ohio. I packed up and followed again.

Today!!! My wife filed for divorce. It has been a rough 2005. We lost our kid do to her having an incompetent cervix. It was devastating to me. She got a real good job. I do not have a good job. I am making half of what I was making in Vegas. So she pops up and says her want s a divorce because I murdered our kid due to me stressing her out during the pregnancy. So I asked her to seek counseling. She denied. We went to see our pastor. She stated to him that there was nothing he could do or say together to change her mind. She has even called the cops on me stating that I locked her in a room and kidnapped her. I did not go to jail. I just do not understand why. Later she said that I did not make her happy. I saw on the phone bill where she has been talking to this guy she use to work with hours at a time while I was at work. Now she is saying that we are incompatible. She also stated that I am controlling and rendered mental cruelty. I do not understand. I can only blame her friends and family for tearing us apart.

I consider myself a good man. I have more to this story but, do not want to make anyone upset. We have not talked in months. I have made attempts via email, no answer. Why want she talk to me. She move out and took half of the items. I know if we could communicate that we can work this problem out. Should I try to contact her? I do not know. I am confused and need help. Can I save my marriage? How can I do this with no communications

You should probably see a counselor yourself cause you can't fix her. Go and see what you can do for you, she has to be willing to make the change in herself, noone can force her.

after reading this post, forget her, give her a divorce and leave. . .

the real question is why are you putting up with this type of spousal behavior? there is no love actions in this marriage. . .

give her the divorce and you go she a counselor about why you want all this negative emotion and drama in your life?

wiftty

You both need counseling pronto.

Keep away from her, she is dangerous to herself and others. I recognize the behaivor, and the same family problems. She probably is expecting you to keep swooping in to rescue her despite her cruelty and instability.

Pick yourself up, and hey maybe go back to Vegas and get your old job back.

She needs to get her life in order, you can't do it for her no matter how you try. The death of a child, unborn or otherwise is a major trauma. And can trigger deep bouts with depression, she may have other psych issues as well.