I have been to an IC twice. The first time I felt very good and comfortable with her and better when I left. The last time (2 days ago) she did something she called EMDR therapy.
I held a disc in each hand. They vibrated alternately and I could control the intensity and speed. She said this was a method to access both sides of the brain and uncover feelings and memories. I had no memory of the first few days after i found out about my husband's affair and she said that wasn't good. So I held these discs and she asked questions about that day. It was just like I was back there again and the emotions were overwhelming. She said I would feel better and these memories could then be filed back and wouldn't bother me as much.
When I got home, I was still very, very upset just like the first day of discovery. My husband had to hold me all night again and I cried for 2 days again just like the first day. Today, it is better, but this feels like a set back to progress I had made to feel better. My husband is convinced this is not a good way for me to heal. He called and cancelled my next appointment. I tend to agree, but don't know what is the right thing to do anymore. I just want to feel better and I was until the counselor tried this EMDR therapy. Has anyone ever heard of this?

You might want to do a google search. Here are some skeptical links:
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/treatment/emdr/article_mystery_cure_4.asp

http://www.skepdic.com/emdr.html

but you can find positive ones, too.

Me, I'd be skeptical.

Weird stuff. Part of me feels that it's probably a good thing to be in touch with the D-day events. I wonder what is "normal", to remember all of the details or to block it out? If you don't remember it, is it going to come back and bite you someday as a trigger?

Although your FWH has cancelled your next appointment, maybe you should keep an open mind. See how you feel in the next few days. Maybe having a few bad days will release those D-day poisons and clear the air. Perhaps it's part of the process and will make you feel more whole. Although the last few days have been emotional for you, who have they been worse on? Has it helped your husband see the pain that D-day caused you? I'm sure he never saw it at the time. Has he taken ownership of the pain? Is he cuncomfortable around it? Maybe the release has been good for you but can your H deal with it? Where does your therapist plan to go from here? I wouldn't want to repeatedly relive D-day. Is there a plan?

Elspbeth, Thanks for the links. I read a lot pro and con, its hard to know what to believe. I do feel much better today. I don't know whether it is because of the EMDR or my husbands attention. One the links said EMDR is more useful for a person who has a single traumatic episode not someone with a history of many years of trouble. I fit the first category.
Grapegirl,
I think it is true that my husband sees more of my pain this time. On our d day he was probably too worried about himself to notice what I was feeling. I don't know what the plan is from here in my therapist mind. If i continue to feel better, I will call her and talk to her about it and maybe reshedule my appointment.

I wish someone on the boards who has had this treatment would post with their personal experience. Pro or Con