I have not posted on here for about a month or so. It has been a long road and I'm still struggling.
I had a 6 month affair that came out in April of 2004. we attempted to work on things for 6 months, with no avail. My wife moved out in October of 2004. We began MC for 6 months from 1/05 to 6/05 but it did not go anywhere.

I have changed in many ways over the past 1 1/2 yrs and she has acknowledged that. We have developed a decent friendship, don't argue, have fun when we do hang out, talk on the phone for 2 hours when we do talk. She stated in Sept. that she does not see me as more than a friend anymore and can't stay in the marriage. We still went out on weekends and she was affectionate towards me. Since asking for the divorce, she has not filed yet. In late November I told her we either needed to move forward in some way or we she needed to move forward with the divorce and I could not be in her life(she stated she couldn't see her life without me in at all). She went to my Christmas party on Dec 3rd as our last time seeing each other for a while. People at the party were confused because they said we looked and acted like we were the most inlove couple there. She fed me food, we held hands, hugged and were happy.

After the party we said our goodbyes and she said she will contact me in a few months and we could have coffee or something. We have not spoken since that time and I received a New Years card from her in the mail yesterday. I am still in love with her and truely want the marriage to work, but from the way the card stated and what we discussed a month ago, she is ready to move on.

She knows what I want and I feel redundant telling her to reconsider or say that I really don't want a divorce. I truely feel she still has feelings for me, she is just ultra scared.

She has all the money and info she needs for the divorce because I am paying for it. she has had it since Sept and still has not filed.

Is there anything else to do, or should I just sit and wait and if it happens it happens...any insight would be appreciated.