AD, thanks for asking. Things are going well, a nice holiday season, peaceful. OW has been sending a lot of mail/signing us up for stuff etc, but other than that she's been quiet since a contact situation back in October.
She claims she's getting divorced, but no paternity paperwork has been received by us. Therefore, we have a joint agreement that we will go about our business, and truly although I have heard otherwise on this site, we are rather certain that in our state we have no grounds to challenge paternity with a MOW. And we don't plan to anyway.
It's hard for us at times of course (Lost loves kids, and we know we would be a MUCH more stable home for OC), but the limited contact we had with OW in Oct was enough to make it plain that we cannot have contact with her; she de-stabilizes things too much with her chaos.
Jennifer Chalmers and the MB site & all of you guys have really given us some good tools to work thru things; I think we're both surprised HOW much work it is, but we avoid LB's and try to recognize the EN's even if we don't do a 100% job at meeting them all the time. Our kids are doing splendidly, and that makes us so happy. We love our new church; I do wish Lost would come on here more and share some wisdom; we had a scare that OW gained access (thus my name change), but I now think that she didn't. And if she did, "Hi OW!!! How are things?? Give me a call sometime, we can do lunch and catch up."
Oh well.
Thanks for your concern, I post a lot on GQ and Just Found Out and PlanA/PlanB... not too much to say on this board because we have no new news and I'm not too much of an expert on dealing with an OC, since we don't.
MSA
