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I'm not sure why I'm even bothering with this post....as it seems that mine are hardly ever responded to anymore.
BUT....this site was once a "haven" for me. A safe place for me to come to when I didn't have a clue as to what to do. A safe place for me to vent. This place has alot to do with the person that I have become.
I've come back over the last 4 years of our Recovery out of respect for the advice and 2x4's that were delivered to me over the years....but it seems that my advice is no longer needed....mostly I think because I don't agree with all of the MB Principles.
I don't get back here as often as I used to....I have too much going on.....and life just seems to get in the way.
To those of you that helped me through my H's infidelity...I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I thank you for taking time out of your own "work" to help me...and others.
4 years ago I would never have imagined that I would be where I am today. NOTHING is perfect....but that's okay....I'm fine with where I am. It's always work in progress.
Recovery for me was not only recovering my marriage. It was recovering someone that I lost. Myself.
I know who I am now. I have found myself. Not everyone likes who I have found...but I do....and that is what matters.
Will my H and I be together forever? Who knows?
5 years ago I would have said yes.....but one never knows that the future holds.
All I know....is that with him or without him....I will be fine.
Goodbye MB....I wish each and every one of you the best that life has to offer.
BS(me) 35 - WH -36 / 3 Daughters / Multiple DDays / Seperated 3 Times/ In Recovery Since 10/01
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Congratulations! You sound like a strong, capable woman. That is what I aspire to in my recovery from my husband's affair. I look forward to the day when I no longer need to come here for advice. You have graduated and that's great!
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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Glad to see happy news here. I think you are absolutely right, that recovery begins with yourself. I didn't recover my marriage, but am much happier now.
Good luck to you and your family. I hope you will check in from time to time, and give updates. It really helps the new people to hear success stories.
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THanks so much for posting - you are where I want to be!!! I have really lost myself in this marraige and now - I know it's time to find out who I am.
GOd Bless - and continue on with your good work!!
ME - 46 yo
exH - 45 yo
Married 20 years
Three children 19, 15, 12
Multiple affairs, D-days, NC, and recoveries - all false
Divorce final May 10, 2007
Each day is a new lesson on forgiveness and peace
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Congratulations, Miss Priss. All the best to you and your H.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Congrats ...
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I walk the recovery path too, ... but I walk alone.
HOW 'BOUT THEM STEELERS!
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I've finally realized now, that you just have to keep breathing. Tomorrow the sun will rise, and who knows what the tide will bring. Tom Hanks (Castaway, 2000)
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