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yep go for it- calm down first. You don't want to have a wreck.
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HE WASN'T THERE - NOT WHAT?????
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I suppose if there was any doubt in your mind, it is gone.
Do you know where the OW lives?
That would be the next best bet, I suppose.
Call the rest. he is supposed to be in and have him paged. If he answers ask him to get you some baby tylenol or something.
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He is on the phone now and and he says he is there, but I just drove by and he is not. do I confront him??
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You need more time to figure out where he IS.
Where else could he be?
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No. Don't confront him. You don't want him to know that you are trying to catch him.
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I asked him where he was and he said the place and he told me to check online. I am trying right now...
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Holy poop - he is SOOOO mad right now!!! He said he is coming over - OMG - what do I do???? HELP!!!!! He said on the phone I don't want you!!!
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OMG - my computer is slow - what do I do - I AM FREAKING OUT
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He wants you to check on line for what?
He is angry, because you almost caught him. When he comes over, be very calm.
Why does he say he's angry?
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Lock the door. Dead bolt it. Do you have a chain?
If he is that mad, don't let him in.
What are you checking online?
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Allison,
Please calm down.... You have got to get it together before he shows up.....
Try not to freak out with him there.
Stay calm ........
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Alison, did you TELL HIM you were checking up on him??
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Check on line for what? That he had a reservation? So what? It could have been a friend there under his name.
Don't let his anger get to you. We all have learned from experience, they become angry when they've been caught doing something wrong. If it was just a mistake on which restaurant then what it the big deal. His anger is that you've caught on and he's losing his freedom to carry on the A.
Alison, don't let him make you the villian and blame you. He's up to no good and the guilt is talking.
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He wants me to check the bank account to see where he just bought his food, but his darn car was not there....
HELP - it is his house too - I cannot - he would not hurt me... HE IS JUST VERY ANGRY AND WILL VERBALLY ABUSE ME... I WILL LET YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENS...
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I grew up with an abusive dad if confronted so maybe I am not the one to give you advice on letting him in or not.
Please stay calm, Allison.
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I don't think is going to work.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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If he's not living there then he can't come in without your permission. (I learned this when stbx was living elsewhere and came here drunk. He was arrested that night for public intoxication because his residence was elsewhere.)
If his car wasn't there, who got him there? He's been caught and that's why he's mad.
If he verbally abuses you, tell him to stop or you'll call 911.
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