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Wait to get your definite proof before EXPOSURE or he will DENY.
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I think you must live in a fault state - as opposed to no-fault. Otherwise OW's husband's lawyer would not have bothered to get evidence of adultery. Your husband will probably be named in their divorce.
I think THAT is why the OW is trying to throw her husband off the trail by saying the A is over.
Be prepared for your husband to contact you and be very ANGRY again.
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He was out with ow.
If you can't get a copy of the video, you can bluff, saying owH showed it to you.
But, do try to get it; even if you have to go to the lawyer's office to view it.
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Ok - H is on the phone and OWH did call OW and asked her why my H would be telling me all sorts of crap about them...
My H is very angry - I told him he couldn't have the money he thought he could have and I told him no. He called me a selfish, greedy bi*ch.
He is very mad. I didn't say a word to him about OWH told me. Not a word. I have called my lawyer to see what I should do.
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Maybe your lawyer can call his lawyer and get the video.
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Okay - read back and answer some of the questions - ie do they have children? What were your marriage problems before all of this?
I wouldn't get into any relationship talk with your husband right now. He will be too angry. You have caught them, and they know it.
See what your attorney says.
Try to relax. Now is the time to develop a plan. This has all been moving very, very fast.
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Maybe your lawyer can call his lawyer and get the video. YES YES YES *side note ((MIMI)))
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Yes, they have 2 children. OWH said that they definitely did have something going on, but he thinks it may be over b/c she comes home straight from work and is there on the weekend. But he said there were 2 times that she didn't show up when she was suppsed to. I unfortunately didn't write down what my H did on those days...
My H and I were doing just fine. Before baby - we were fine until OW started at his company. I told him I felt displaced. I told him I was depressed. He did nothing. I went away for 2 months to be with my sick mom and this is when it all started..
Then Mexico happened and my gut instinct went nuts... Then both my M and OW's marriage went to sh*t...
Seriously -- I do not know what to do. H wants to comeover tonight and get his money - do I let him come?? I told me just when I thought I couldn't hate you any more...
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I am confused - he said the marriage is over and he is moving on, but she still comes home at night?
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SHe comes home from work, then he leaves to go to his place. He takes care of the kids after school and then when she comes home he leaves...
I am really at a loss here - what do i do??
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Okay, you have this backwards. IF everything was okay BEFORE the affair, it is likely that the affair caused the problems in both marriages. It probably started out innocently enough.
Read up on the emotional needs section, and see if you can start meeting your husband's top ones. Admiration is usually up there fairly high.
After exposure they are always very angry, but they get over it fast. As long as he is angry, might as well expose to his parents. I would let them know that OW has 2 children and a husband, and her husband is now filing for divorce because of whatever is on the video with your husband.
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he said he is getting a gag order so i can't speak to anyone else... do i believe him? What should I do??
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He said he is filing for D right now.
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he said he is getting a gag order so i can't speak to anyone else... do i believe him? What should I do?? Who is getting a GAG order? Alison, call the OWH back and ask him to please give you the evidence so you can use it to save your marriage.
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he said he is getting a gag order so i can't speak to anyone else... do i believe him? What should I do?? Allison, I have NEVER heard of such a thing and I've been the legal profession for 20 years. If you are in the US, the best he could get is an Order preventing him from harassing him and calling OWH would not fall in that category. Regards, BB
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He said he is filing for D right now. He is trying to stop you from interfering with his affair. Don't fall for his bluff.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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He said he is filing for D right now. Yeah, right. My XH told me that several times but never did - I did. Regards, BB
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Your H is getting the gag order? Your H is filing?
He's lying. He's trying to scare, manipulate, and control you. Did this work in the past?
Put some steel in your spine.
Your H is about to be named in a divorce suit by the owH. I don't know MD law, but it's possible he could be sued for alienation of affection. Spell these things out to your H, and his parents.
Do you belong to a church? Call your pastor - now.
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Allison:
He's following the STANDARD WS SCRIPT...
He's trying to BULLDOZE YOU..to BLUFF YOU..to BS...
GAIN YOUR COMPOSURE...
Become DELIBERATE YET CALM IN YOUR ATTEMPT TO BREAKUP HIS WRONGFUL AFFAIR AND TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE...
Get up on your horse and FIGHT....
THIS IS WAR....
NO YELLING, NO SCREAMING, NO PLEADING...
CALM YET DELIBERATE....
"I know you are having an A with "OW". I am wanting to work on the problems that led to this. I am your wife, etc..."
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