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Talk to OM?
#1552811 01/03/06 10:07 AM
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I put digital recorder in WWs car and got her talking to OM. It seems like she's pursuing him and he's backing off a little bit. He says things are complicated because she's married with kids and he's separated with kids. I think he's nervous about legal repercussions in his own sitch. Should I call him and appeal to his better nature? See if he will start No Contact? He doesn't think I know what's going on and has never met me. Is there a down side to doing this or is it worth a shot?
ME BS 37
WW 36
DD 7
DS 4

BS (me) 40
WW 38
DD 10
DS 7
Got "I don't love you" letter 8/05.
Re: Talk to OM?
lostherlove68 #1552812 01/03/06 10:23 AM
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I have tried this over nad over again. The problem is that the OP is also in the affair fog and will tell you 1) that your current marital problems have NOTHING to do with them, 2)They will see no reason to change their course fo action - since they are not the problem, and 3) You can't TRUST HIM!!! if you could - then you wouldn't be in this position.

Let me tell you that I have been in your shoes and I and I ahve spoken to OW, and I get the same lines time and time again. The only time I got any kind of results was when I exposed affair to her husband. And now they are on a rockier road then before. But still working on keeping it together.

If you talk with OM - just remember - don't trust anything he says, and he does not want to be your friend, and don't engage him in angry words.

Blessings - Jan

ME - 46 yo
exH - 45 yo
Married 20 years
Three children 19, 15, 12
Multiple affairs, D-days, NC, and recoveries - all false
Divorce final May 10, 2007

Each day is a new lesson on forgiveness and peace
Re: Talk to OM?
snickers64 #1552813 01/03/06 11:57 AM
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Thanks Jan,
I'll call him. Probably can't hurt.

BS (me) 40
WW 38
DD 10
DS 7
Got "I don't love you" letter 8/05.

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