my husband and I just celebrated our 2nd anniversary on December 17, 2005. On that day...he informed me we had a problem in our marriage...and we needed to work on it....he never really told me what that problem was. That following Wednesday....he all but told me he only married me b/c of our daughter....I told him if he didnt want to be w/ me...he needed to leave. Later that night...he said we both needed to work on some things, b/c he wasnt happy anymore. So...he gave me until January 1 to prove to him I could change some things about me...and he was going to change too. This past Saturday..I asked him if he was leaving on the 1st...and he said no...that he loved me, he wanted to be with me...and things have gotten better..etc..etc....
Well...this past monday we got into a little argument...and he decides that our marriage is over. I packed all of his stuff yesterday..and took it to his moms house. Im female...so of course i automatically think its someone else that he wants..and thats why he is doing this to me and his kids, but he insists that there is no one...that he is just unhappy. I feel like I bend over backwards to make this man happy...thats my job. I am so lost and confused right now...does anyone have any advice???

First welcome to MB, please go to Just found out forum and read the first 3 posts. Learn about MB.

For now, leave him alone. If he has A time will tell and if gut feeling there is A ... 99% you are correct. Specially when H is waffeling and start "I love you but I am not in love with you" talk.

Hang in there and vent in here.

What are his complaint in M about you ? Those are your plan A materials.

-rh-

[color:"blue"] Hi, and welcome to MB. (marriage builders)

Red Hat is correct - you would want to start learning the basics first and he pointed you in a good direction.

MB is about making the best you that you can be or the best spouse who knows and fulfils their partner's emotional needs better than anyone else could.

It would help if we knew more specifically what his complaints about you were.

V. [/color]

Well...the only thing he has told me that needed to change was my attitude...my patience w/ our 3 year old....thats it....and saturday he told me he had noticed a big change in me...for both of those he told me i needed to work on.....i cant say he wouldnt cheat on me.....he is a manager at a resteraunt...and he sometimes dont get out of there until 12 or 1 am...but he is always home shortly after.....on his days off...he is always w/ me and the kids....and plus..(like all men)...he insists that there is no one else...he doesnt hardly have time for me and his kids....and that he dont have the time or energy for anyone else either.....i mean...he never knows when i will call him to see if he is at work....he never knows when ill be there waiting on him to get off....i dunno....