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Well I am back, because I am confused and don't know what else to do. I have noticed the OW new cell phone ( this is after 1 year on NC) It comes up everyonce in a while, and for one min... You can comunicate a lot in 1 min? Anyway we have not been getting along at all... most days I really hate him .. so any way... we have not been having S** at all totally my choice... He is always rude and nasty... like he wants to start a fight. And then he is really nice because he wants some.... well all of a sudden he started acting weird again.... and on x-mas eve after the kids were in bed I started to do the stocking stuffer thing and we had a hudge fight and he looked me in the eye and said well if I don't start getting S** from you then I will go find it somewhere else.... Oh yea that makes me want to jump in bed with you......not!!!!! the he proceeded to man handle me if you know what i mean... no bruses or anything.... I just made sure that while he was man handleing me I didn't cry and I didn't act scared.... But I was... .. so here it is new years eve and he is waiting in line to the bathroom with my best friend and tell her we haven't had S** in 3 months and that he is going to go find it else where.... All I can say is I dare you and you will be alone I will not forgive this the next time..... so he brings up counseling... I say great ( he didn't want to before)... But then he proceeds to tell my Best friends husband... that he wants to go and I don't what a lie, I have wanted him to go since a year ago.... I don't know what to do just confused ... so last night when he gets home we are talking and he won't look me in the eye..... Guilty
Me -39
WH- 43
D-day 9/23/04 & 8/11/05
D16,D14,D12,D7
NC-9/24/04 except she keeps calling and leaving
messages
8-11-05 - saw calls to the same woman again.
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How long ago did you notice the Phone # showing up? How long have you not been getting along "at all".
Go to counseling. Who cares if who's idea it is.
Give some SF. Don't punish by withholding SF, your not gaining points either.
Forget about even trades right now, get some deposits in his love bank.
And control the LB's ... cut down the withdrawls.
Last edited by Tom Joad; 01/04/06 04:36 PM.
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I walk the recovery path too, ... but I walk alone.
HOW 'BOUT THEM STEELERS!
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I've finally realized now, that you just have to keep breathing. Tomorrow the sun will rise, and who knows what the tide will bring. Tom Hanks (Castaway, 2000)
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JustHurt,
Do you have any reason to thing that there has been more contact than the cell phone calls? Or do you think that there is a chance that the affair never really ended. Did he write a NC letter to OW?
This just doesn't feel good to me, you know, red flags and all. I guess if it were me, I would have to dig and snoop until I knew that it was either still going on or completely over. In any case, there is still contact so you can't actually recover.
Agree that if he will go to counseling you should give it a try.
Sorry, I know this must be tough.
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03
Recovered
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